I have a crush on this girl at my school. I've known her since elementary school (we're 16). She's a lesbian, and I'm bi. I think she is a gorgeous, funny, intelligent human being, and I would love to have a relationship with her. There are some problems though:
1. She has a girlfriend (it seems for real, but you never know...)
2. I'm not her type (I'm fat and ugly. Possibly too masculine.)
3. She might not think of me this way
4. Basically any other negative you can think of
Should I tell her how I feel, or would it be a waste of my time anyway? Since she has a gf, i dont want her to be upset with me. I really do have strong feelings for her, but I don't want to make things weird. I just can't stop thinking, ';What if she doesn't even like me?';. Should I just let her go? Am I an idiot? I need some help...I need some girl advice! Help?
Don't tell her now, she'll just feel weird...tell her when she's single, and until then ( even though you're probably not as fat and ugly as you think you are, cheer up), you can work on exercise, getting a new look. Make her realize there could be a connection BUT realize that you might not have a chance- if you really love her, you'll want her to be happy, no matter who she's with. Don't wait up for her- just focus on being a better person, get on with your life, and look for another girl. There are lots of funny, smart, great women out there, and you shouldn't blind yourself. Maybe one day it'll work, maybe not.I need some girl advice! Help?
You sound like the troubles I've went through in the past couple of years. Except that I'm the lesbian. To tell her how you feel, write a letter and do not sign it, unless you want her to know, then have someone deliver it or leave it in a place where you know she'll look. You are not an idiot for liking someone that is close to you. Good luck, and I hope it works out for you better than it did for me.
I think you shouldn't tell her with an attitude like that. If you have that low confidence then it'll just be weird. I'm sry but that's how i feel.
I feel sorry for you being in this position, but I would leave it until you find time to tell her. Not yet tough, if you tell her her gf will find out and she will get her claws out!
Yes you are a idiot!
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
I need some girl advice?
ok i really like this girl.Lets call her Girl1. she likes me too but her best friend really likes me also.We'll call her Girl2. Girl1 wont go out with me because she doesn't want to hurt her friendship with Girl2. I don't really like Girl2 other than a friend. and to make things worse girl 1 also likes my 2 best friends.Girl 1 knows i have feelings for her.And so does Girl2. But Girl1 always shows her affection towards my 2 best friends and its really awkward and i just want her know how i feel....Any advice anyoneI need some girl advice?
ask girl1 how she feels and if girl2 is not happy for girl1 then she anit a friend.
i suggest you tell her how you feel.I need some girl advice?
Be the assertive one, the girls aren't making any moves, so you have to.
i would just go out with her. girl2 is probably just jealous. you can't always make people happy in these situations. Good luck,
Samantha
ask girl1 how she feels and if girl2 is not happy for girl1 then she anit a friend.
i suggest you tell her how you feel.I need some girl advice?
Be the assertive one, the girls aren't making any moves, so you have to.
i would just go out with her. girl2 is probably just jealous. you can't always make people happy in these situations. Good luck,
Samantha
Need some genuine girl advice?
I'm 20 years old in college. I met this girl the other day in the library whom I think is very cute. I got her number. I called her a couple of hours later(which I know was my first mistake). Anyways, when I talked to her I asked her to hang out with me and she said she would call me the next day. She never did as I expected. She called me a couple of days later and said sorry and gave me her excuse. We talked for a while and had a few things in common and I'm interested in getting to know her more. I've asked her out and she gives me some excuse about how its not a good weekend because she is busy. I'm no idiot I know if she was interested she would make a little bit of time. I need some advice in how to make this girl more interested in me. I know, obviously, that she is somewhat interested due to her giving me her number. I have a feeling I'm being too forward and she sees that. Anyways I really want to take her out and her not think that I'm desperate. If there are any girls out there that would know what they would want the guy to do in this situation, I would really appreciate your advice.Need some genuine girl advice?
Maybe shes just not comfortable going out with a stranger. If she's ok just talking to you on the phone, you can call her a couple more times and see if she warms up the more she knows you.Need some genuine girl advice?
You need to wait a good 2 weeks before asking her out again. Then she'll wonder why you aren't asking her out. Making a girl think about you is the first way to get a date lol.. unless they are thinking ';man I wish this guy would stop bugging me'; Then when you do ask her out, be genuine and straight-forward. if she says no then she is just mean,
If you're worried about coming on too strong, don't take her on a date-date. Just see if she wants to go for some coffee, or on a ';friend date'; (like, invite her to the bars with your friends [have her invite some of hers too!] or to a party or something.)
But you don't want to ignore her, either!
Be upfront with her and ask ';Would you want to hang out sometime?'; if she says yes than say ';You seem pretty busy. When's a time that works for you?'; If she's just making excuses then that's the time she'll have to tell you if she's interested or not.
Good luck!
do ever know if she has a boyfriend? maybe the reason she gave you her number is because she only wants to make friends. um, in my opinion, she does kinds of sound that she wasn't interested. or maybe she is a very busy girl? i don't know. well if she acts this way, it is best that you just give her some time. i don't like guy been way to close and doesn't give me any freedom. maybe another couple of weeks you give her a call, asks her hows it going. just don't be too pressuring. when you sees her, just act normal, don't show that you're really into her, something like that. she maybe felt uncomfortable if you suddenly appear in her world and be that desperate guy
i'm sorry but good luck! xxalmay
Maybe shes just not comfortable going out with a stranger. If she's ok just talking to you on the phone, you can call her a couple more times and see if she warms up the more she knows you.Need some genuine girl advice?
You need to wait a good 2 weeks before asking her out again. Then she'll wonder why you aren't asking her out. Making a girl think about you is the first way to get a date lol.. unless they are thinking ';man I wish this guy would stop bugging me'; Then when you do ask her out, be genuine and straight-forward. if she says no then she is just mean,
If you're worried about coming on too strong, don't take her on a date-date. Just see if she wants to go for some coffee, or on a ';friend date'; (like, invite her to the bars with your friends [have her invite some of hers too!] or to a party or something.)
But you don't want to ignore her, either!
Be upfront with her and ask ';Would you want to hang out sometime?'; if she says yes than say ';You seem pretty busy. When's a time that works for you?'; If she's just making excuses then that's the time she'll have to tell you if she's interested or not.
Good luck!
do ever know if she has a boyfriend? maybe the reason she gave you her number is because she only wants to make friends. um, in my opinion, she does kinds of sound that she wasn't interested. or maybe she is a very busy girl? i don't know. well if she acts this way, it is best that you just give her some time. i don't like guy been way to close and doesn't give me any freedom. maybe another couple of weeks you give her a call, asks her hows it going. just don't be too pressuring. when you sees her, just act normal, don't show that you're really into her, something like that. she maybe felt uncomfortable if you suddenly appear in her world and be that desperate guy
i'm sorry but good luck! xx
I need some girl advice,(boys I GUESS,too,if you understand.)?
Okay I like diz guy and today was taks.After TAKS I was in my reading teachers class,and I told him I couldn't find a seat.He said there is one right there! He pointed to a chair with a book on top.EVERYONE laughed at me.Even my friend ( :( I saw the stupid desk,but there was a book on it so I thought sum1 sat there! Gosh I hate teachers.My crush said USE UR BRAIN! And now I am kinda mad.I cried of course,and I am mad at him for saying dat.But I still like him.What would you have dun? ( :)I need some girl advice,(boys I GUESS,too,if you understand.)?
Dont stress about it !! Boys are boys..nothing you can do about it ! Try living with 4 of em !!! Boys ALWAYS tease so thats normal !! Could be a sign that he likes you !
Dont stress about it !! Boys are boys..nothing you can do about it ! Try living with 4 of em !!! Boys ALWAYS tease so thats normal !! Could be a sign that he likes you !
Guy In Need Of A Girls Advice....Ive Really Fallen For This Girl And Need Help Here..............?
whats the best way to ask a girl out? be straightforward and be like ';would you like to go out with me?'; or more like ';maybe we can go out sometime';?
also when i ask her out is it ok to just ask and then say you will call her once you get her number to tell details and such or is it better to say where you wanna take her out right then cause i really dont know where i would ask her to go out? any ideas on places? things to do?Guy In Need Of A Girls Advice....Ive Really Fallen For This Girl And Need Help Here..............?
Straightforward might be better, and first ask her what things she like to do for fun. If she says that she likes playing tennis, then take her to lunch and play tennis afterwards, or vice versa. If she says she likes seeing movies, then ask her to go to a new movie.Guy In Need Of A Girls Advice....Ive Really Fallen For This Girl And Need Help Here..............?
Be straightforward! When you get her number call and ask her when shes not busy then ask her if she wants to go bowling, that way you can find out more about her and have fun playing a game.
Tip: Do NOT let her win, whats the fun of that? And also it's like your saying she cant win unless you let her.
Just ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. The best relationship is between friends, so before you even think about ';going out';, just be a friend.
tell her if u could eat lunch with her
or
if she like being complimented tell her shes beautiful, or, sexy, or pretty, gorgeuos ect. everyday!
hope it helps answer bak plz
also when i ask her out is it ok to just ask and then say you will call her once you get her number to tell details and such or is it better to say where you wanna take her out right then cause i really dont know where i would ask her to go out? any ideas on places? things to do?Guy In Need Of A Girls Advice....Ive Really Fallen For This Girl And Need Help Here..............?
Straightforward might be better, and first ask her what things she like to do for fun. If she says that she likes playing tennis, then take her to lunch and play tennis afterwards, or vice versa. If she says she likes seeing movies, then ask her to go to a new movie.Guy In Need Of A Girls Advice....Ive Really Fallen For This Girl And Need Help Here..............?
Be straightforward! When you get her number call and ask her when shes not busy then ask her if she wants to go bowling, that way you can find out more about her and have fun playing a game.
Tip: Do NOT let her win, whats the fun of that? And also it's like your saying she cant win unless you let her.
Just ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. The best relationship is between friends, so before you even think about ';going out';, just be a friend.
tell her if u could eat lunch with her
or
if she like being complimented tell her shes beautiful, or, sexy, or pretty, gorgeuos ect. everyday!
hope it helps answer bak plz
I NEED SOME GIRL ADVICE!!! PLEASE HELP, PLEASE.?
There's this guy i really, really like. the thing is, im way to shy to talk to him. i cant even say a simple ';hey';. what's wrong with me? my friends keep telling me that we'd be a perfect couple, and that we are eachother's type. But hes the type of guy that needs to really know you and be friends with you. How can i do that if i cant talk to him and he wont talk to me? seriously, the most contact we come to is when he looks at me when im looking the other way, and when i look at him when hes looking the other way. i really like him, but im too shy! HELP.I NEED SOME GIRL ADVICE!!! PLEASE HELP, PLEASE.?
Ask one of your friends that know him to introduce you two. Don't be shy. If you really like him then don't let being shy get in your way.I NEED SOME GIRL ADVICE!!! PLEASE HELP, PLEASE.?
If your in a situation where you are talking to the same group, etc. comment on something he says. Then, if you see him around, just smile or maybe say hi...if you dont try, you will always regret it.
sorry, first you find out way,to check what type of relation you are looking for,if it is for life ,then find out what the guy want and this can be done by some middle person and then try to figure out your way of approach .as you are shy by nature the yes and no from the guy can hurt you too much so ,don't hurry take your time ,just give your want ,and love for that guy more fuel ,your urge will do the rest ,because in relationship planning is important. dont be shy,be confident ,hey girl! that guy will be also pleased ,you are equally important for him ,so babes go for it ......good luck and let us inform how you have done it .see you
aww
ive experienced the same problem.
try talking online at first.
over aim or myspace/facebook
or get a friend to introduce you guys(:
goodluck!
First, try to get to know some of his other friends. Then they will probably end up introducing you to him. If that doesn't work, try writing him a note. That's what worked for me! Good luck to ya!
are you friends with ANY of his friends (even if its only an aquaintance?!) if so, suggest to the acquaintance/friend that you and a few people (includ the guy you like ) should go out and see a movie sometime or hang out at the park.
that way, you'll have a chance to talk to this guy and if things get awkwardyou can just talk to the other people that are there. :)
well, you really need to set up a plan. tell your friend what the deal is and she'll help, trust me.
explain that you can't talk to him because you're too chicken (shy isn't the right word, sorry to say. shy people aren't quite so antisocial towards guys).
then tell her this plan: you want her to push you into him next time you go by his locker or something. it would be a perfect way to get aquainted. =] haha. seriously, try it.
I really like the first girl's answer. Talking online is a great idea. My husband and I met when we were 12 years old and we both really liked each other, but we were both SO shy and too young to even have a real relationship, anyway. But over the next 6 years (I know, a long time, but I had moved away, so we were STILL too young to have a relationship until we were able to travel to see each other), we talked a lot online and we got to know each other so well. We wouldn't have been able to talk this much in person, because we were just too shy. But online, we were able to really open up and get to know each other. We've now been married for over 2 years and we are best friends! Good luck! =)
Who says that words are the only outlet for communication?
Body language is even more affective then any word one could utter. And the good thing about it is, you don't even have to be that close to him to express that you like him! A flirty look from across the room. A smile. Guys are very visual and respond to things like that even more then words. plus if you give him a flirty look he will know that you are into him, as opposed to talking to him all the time he could take it as you guys are ';just friends';. I say you should try that also pick up a cosmo for more advice. Good luck girl!
xoxo
-A
you just have to gain the courage to say something to him. that's the only way anything will happen between you guys. just start small like saying hi to each other. then work your way up to conversations.
Ask one of your friends that know him to introduce you two. Don't be shy. If you really like him then don't let being shy get in your way.I NEED SOME GIRL ADVICE!!! PLEASE HELP, PLEASE.?
If your in a situation where you are talking to the same group, etc. comment on something he says. Then, if you see him around, just smile or maybe say hi...if you dont try, you will always regret it.
sorry, first you find out way,to check what type of relation you are looking for,if it is for life ,then find out what the guy want and this can be done by some middle person and then try to figure out your way of approach .as you are shy by nature the yes and no from the guy can hurt you too much so ,don't hurry take your time ,just give your want ,and love for that guy more fuel ,your urge will do the rest ,because in relationship planning is important. dont be shy,be confident ,hey girl! that guy will be also pleased ,you are equally important for him ,so babes go for it ......good luck and let us inform how you have done it .see you
aww
ive experienced the same problem.
try talking online at first.
over aim or myspace/facebook
or get a friend to introduce you guys(:
goodluck!
First, try to get to know some of his other friends. Then they will probably end up introducing you to him. If that doesn't work, try writing him a note. That's what worked for me! Good luck to ya!
are you friends with ANY of his friends (even if its only an aquaintance?!) if so, suggest to the acquaintance/friend that you and a few people (includ the guy you like ) should go out and see a movie sometime or hang out at the park.
that way, you'll have a chance to talk to this guy and if things get awkwardyou can just talk to the other people that are there. :)
well, you really need to set up a plan. tell your friend what the deal is and she'll help, trust me.
explain that you can't talk to him because you're too chicken (shy isn't the right word, sorry to say. shy people aren't quite so antisocial towards guys).
then tell her this plan: you want her to push you into him next time you go by his locker or something. it would be a perfect way to get aquainted. =] haha. seriously, try it.
I really like the first girl's answer. Talking online is a great idea. My husband and I met when we were 12 years old and we both really liked each other, but we were both SO shy and too young to even have a real relationship, anyway. But over the next 6 years (I know, a long time, but I had moved away, so we were STILL too young to have a relationship until we were able to travel to see each other), we talked a lot online and we got to know each other so well. We wouldn't have been able to talk this much in person, because we were just too shy. But online, we were able to really open up and get to know each other. We've now been married for over 2 years and we are best friends! Good luck! =)
Who says that words are the only outlet for communication?
Body language is even more affective then any word one could utter. And the good thing about it is, you don't even have to be that close to him to express that you like him! A flirty look from across the room. A smile. Guys are very visual and respond to things like that even more then words. plus if you give him a flirty look he will know that you are into him, as opposed to talking to him all the time he could take it as you guys are ';just friends';. I say you should try that also pick up a cosmo for more advice. Good luck girl!
xoxo
-A
you just have to gain the courage to say something to him. that's the only way anything will happen between you guys. just start small like saying hi to each other. then work your way up to conversations.
I need female/girl advice.......urgent assistance required.thanks?
DOES SHE LIKE me or is there interest?????
I met this girl on friday.....she said she wants to be in contact with me (I presume as friends of course cos u cant have a realtionship after 30 mins)
we exchanged phone numbers and we added each other on facebook
after three days of no contact, i send her a text message asking her how she was doing and that we had a nice conversation the other day
she then replied with:
';Hey tim...what a suprise! How are you? Yeah, it was a really nice conversation and I enjoyed it a lot! I am on my way to bowling, what are you up to now?';
I then said I am cooking (lol), but seriously, I was! I also told her to make a strike for me while playing bowling!
She then replied
';Cooking? Well I like the fact that you are cooking! I will try my best to make a strike.....Have a great night and thanks for adding me on facebook';
I then sent her a message back saying thank you too and i wish her sweet dreams as she sleeps.
I heard nothing back from her since then.
I KNOW THIS IS THE WRONG SECTION BUT MOST GIRLS COME HERE SO IT MADE SENSE TO POST IT HERE IN THIS SECTIONI need female/girl advice.......urgent assistance required.thanks?
i hate it when a guy tells me sweet dreams. be unique when you say something sweet. she may think you are cute, but she may not like like you. you know what i mean. she probably wants to get to know you. so take your time. dont rush. that scares us girls away.I need female/girl advice.......urgent assistance required.thanks?
Uhh you asked this yesterday??? And alotta ppl answered...........
You were golden up to the 'sweet dreams' part.
That was an overstep -sometimes, we don't want to hear that from a guy we just met - gives up creepy vibes.
There is interest obviously otherwise she wouldn't have allowed you the add on face book... try not to read to much into things and enjoy it. It seems like a bit of friendly chat. If you want to know for sure make it clear that you like her...somebody has to make the first move, why not you ? And how do you expect her to reply to your last message? its a nice way to end the night but what would you say back if someone said that to you.
Seems like she's interested.
Just keep talking/texting her.
but not obsessively.
and don't say sweet dream stuff, just say good night.
'Sweet dreams' can be creepy. ahha
ha ha i see your problem. this girl (i think) is thinkign to herself ';should i text him or message him on facebook??'; same as you. the next time you talk to her, keep it casual...like ';hi katie havent heard from you in a while...whats up?'; or just DO IT. do it as in ASK HER OUT ON A DATE!! she obviously likes the way you are, your cooking self. (if u ask her) on the date, you should go bowling and then cook her dinner!! i think she'd like that alot.
hope i helped %26lt;333 xoxo Julia
Well it sounds like she likes you, that is no doubt. If I girl didn't like you I don't think she would of gave you her number. How she likes you is the question....She either likes you just as a friend or she is attracted to you and is interested in more. And how you treat her could greatly affect that. So far I think you have done great. A woman wants to know your thinking about her but doesn't want to know your waiting by the phone for her. Ya know?! If she is interested she is just as confused as you are, trust me! If she is interested in you she is wondering why she hasn't heard from you since then and debating whether or not she should contact you and how. So save yourself and her the stress and text her again. Be honest just let her know you are thinking about her and ask her how her day is going. Come on what is the worst thing that could happen? She doesn't respond, then oh well at least you know how she feels and best situation she is glad to hear from you and the conversation takes off from there!
Good luck!
:) Ashley
she is interested in you because SHE was the one asking to exchange contact information and she was being totally sweet to a guy she just met! haha and this was the right section cuz i know I'M always here lol
Probably interested.. Sounds like she may have even wanted you to come on the bowling outing. Don't trip on the last unanswered text message. She may have have a few drinks at the bowling alley and just gotten caught up with her friends.
You're overthinking this and it's probably projecting to her and creeping her out a bit. Keep it casual. Stay in touch. It sounds like she likes you and you'll get a better feel as to if there's interest but if there's not, wouldn't you like her as a friend? Give it time.
We don't know!!! LOL. Try asking her out casually...like to go bowling or to a movie with a group of friends. Read her body language. Or, you could just flat out ask her! That way you'll have an answer. It sounds like you like her...I hope it works out for you!
she most likely doesnt like you if she isnt replying to your message. its great that you had a good conversation, but thats all it was. it doesnt sounds like there is any interest.
Give it a few days then call her. Try not to show her too much attention because most girls dont go for it. Good luck!
nope
It sounds like shes interested in you. but she might just be interested in being friends with you rather then being in a relationship with you. but don't expect her to reply to every text you send her right away, or for her to text and call you often, because girls don't like to go nuts and be obsessed over guys like that. just give her time and space and everything will work out fine. good luck=)
Well here's the thing....most girls lay low and expect the guy to call them, not the girls to call guys after you met or had a date,that's just how it is. And she might be playing hard to get to get you to think about her, and to get you to chase after her. I would say just to text her and say hi casually, and after asking her hows it going and stuff maybey say like, so did you get a strike the other night? or make a joke (but not an insulting joke!) then ask her to on a date, and if she says like well im not free this week, but mabey another time? then shes not interested, but if she says yes id love to or some thing then she's definately interested! (and dont not talk to her for a while or she will think your not interested in her)
Did you not answer this question earlier today? Cuz I answered it.
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