Well i've been dating this girl for about 3-4 weeks. The first week was mostly phone calls/ text / internet chatting 24/7 like literally. Then the 2nd week we met up, hooked up and act like gf/bf. But things are slowing down. (none the less good tho...) She tells me things are moving to fast... i agree but i think we have a special thing going and we should just ride the wave.
These past weeks, i've noticed we talk/ chat a lot less like its more level now? But its because she makes it that way.. and i really don't understand. We profess how much we like each other but she always comes voices her insecurities. (she was scared from a prior relationship) What am i suppose to do? I really like her, and dont want to lose her. So i try not to pry and initiate convo's. I've tried but i dont want to end up causing irreversible travesties.
Im ready and willing but she tells me things like... ';some days i feel like committing and some days i dont'; What am i suppose to do? Im also worried that since i need alot of attention and affection i might lose her during this hiatus. The 24/7 chatting was supplementing that need but since thats gone what else do i have left to stay?Dating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
i don麓t even care what you have to say about this girl... get away from unsure girls, been there done that, never going back.
insecurity leads to A LOT of problemsDating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
I think that best thing you can do is try to be her friend, then you can move forward from there. If shes worth your time then you shouldn't mind spending some time building up trust
IT's true what people said above me- unsure girls are bad bad news.
give her time
too much effort mate, you gotta decide if she's worth it
First give her some space and let her think real hard about this.
Like the other answer has said ';Unsure women leads to lots of confusing and heartache';.
It's true, i've been through the same **** too and all it did was hurt me. So best advice i can give you is let her be for a bit, give her a few weeks. Chill with her like you normally would. If she still feels strange about it, just tell her how you feel, make it seem like you mean the world to her and that you would do most anything for her and be by her side when she needs it most. Say it from the heart like you really mean it.
If she still feels unsure about you and acts in a strange way that makes you feel extremely uncomfortable....best thing you can do is just move on, it would be her lose if she lost the man that would give the world to her, not yours.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
okay i told this girl i really like ';i like you'; - she replied to me i also like like you.......... :)
Now here is where im confused? - everyone says were always flirting - laughing touching each other etc ....... always together basically ........! (thats what others think and say to me)
She said to me although I like you ';I dont think anything should happen';? ........... :|
Bear in mind im pakistani shes indian ---------%26gt; Different religion/culture I dont know if that affects anything? - were both 17 studying at college.
But if she liked me why would she say ';i dont think anything should happen though';
Problem is i want to be with her but when she said that I was like ';whaat'; ?
Can someone please explain to me in detail - if she likes me why would she say that?
Thanks folks i really appreciate your answers
And please be serious!Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
She likes you as a friend. Don't make her feel suffocated, lay off a bit.Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
culture should never make a difference, you probably just have a bad habit or something that puts her off, but tbh don't bother asking her if you do because she won't notice it or won't be able to explain it and it will just make things awkward, try to erase your personality a bit, it will be boring at first but once you make your new personality it will make all the difference, obviously this sounds very silly and you don't have to do it but i did it and it worked so i dunno, do what you think is best.
or you could just ask her why she doesn't want to go out with you
hmmmm....i would only say that to a guy if i meant physical love...maybe she likes you and is a bit unsure about the relationship as it is early stages...i think you ask her clearly to go out with you, and ask/tell her whatever is on your mind. i think she definatley likes you though, but maybe she is a bit nervous about the new relationship that is going to grow between you??? best thing to do id to tell/ask her...good luck! =) hope i helped
i think that she likes you as a friend but thats all you are to her,just enjoy being her friend its tough but if you was to push it further you may end up loosing her as a friend too,
she probably really like you, but thinks it might be too hard to have a relationship because of all of the religious/cultural differences you mentioned.
maybe she's talkign about doing the nasty.. you know what i mean ;) and she might just want to be a virgin or something... or i could be completely wrong... ask her about it.... :0)
Now here is where im confused? - everyone says were always flirting - laughing touching each other etc ....... always together basically ........! (thats what others think and say to me)
She said to me although I like you ';I dont think anything should happen';? ........... :|
Bear in mind im pakistani shes indian ---------%26gt; Different religion/culture I dont know if that affects anything? - were both 17 studying at college.
But if she liked me why would she say ';i dont think anything should happen though';
Problem is i want to be with her but when she said that I was like ';whaat'; ?
Can someone please explain to me in detail - if she likes me why would she say that?
Thanks folks i really appreciate your answers
And please be serious!Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
She likes you as a friend. Don't make her feel suffocated, lay off a bit.Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
culture should never make a difference, you probably just have a bad habit or something that puts her off, but tbh don't bother asking her if you do because she won't notice it or won't be able to explain it and it will just make things awkward, try to erase your personality a bit, it will be boring at first but once you make your new personality it will make all the difference, obviously this sounds very silly and you don't have to do it but i did it and it worked so i dunno, do what you think is best.
or you could just ask her why she doesn't want to go out with you
hmmmm....i would only say that to a guy if i meant physical love...maybe she likes you and is a bit unsure about the relationship as it is early stages...i think you ask her clearly to go out with you, and ask/tell her whatever is on your mind. i think she definatley likes you though, but maybe she is a bit nervous about the new relationship that is going to grow between you??? best thing to do id to tell/ask her...good luck! =) hope i helped
i think that she likes you as a friend but thats all you are to her,just enjoy being her friend its tough but if you was to push it further you may end up loosing her as a friend too,
she probably really like you, but thinks it might be too hard to have a relationship because of all of the religious/cultural differences you mentioned.
maybe she's talkign about doing the nasty.. you know what i mean ;) and she might just want to be a virgin or something... or i could be completely wrong... ask her about it.... :0)
There is this girl and i need girl advice?
ok here we go. there is this girl at school i like her and she likes me. we have been talking for about two months and she tells me all the time that she likes me, but when i asked her out she said i will go out with you in the future but right now i just want to get to know you. is that girl talk for back off i dont really want you around or is she serious? we are both 17There is this girl and i need girl advice?
she probably is just nervous about taking the next step and doesnt want to loose a friend if it doesnt work out... this is normal
do something really romantic... like buy her flowers and randomly give them to her or write a cute poem and read it to her
this will make her fall for you
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In my opinion If a girl really likes you, she would jump at the chance to be with you but thats just me. Ask her about her recent relationship it might have something to do with that, because I had a friend who went through a really bad break up in which she felt that she had rushed into a relationship and they guy she was with ended up being REALLY clingy. So when she found another guy she was afraid to go out with him because she didnt want to rush into it like she did with her first boyfriend. I say just be patient for a while and if she still doesnt want to go out with you then let her know that you'er not going to wait for her forever.
She wants to get to know you as a person before she lets herself fall in love you. If you want to date her, ask her to let you know when she is ready for a boyfriend. In the meantime, just continue to talk and get a group together to go bowling or skating or to grab a bite and include her in the group. That way you can go out with her without the pressure of a date and while she can still get to know you.
basically she should just go out with you if she likes you. SHE CAN'T like you if she doesn't know you that well, so what more she wants to know?
i think it's best for her to go out with you so she can learn more since you guys are in a relationship and can talk things through and other type of feelings. otherwise, it's just going to be a friend to friend conversation, nothing more she's going to find out.
i just think she's confused.
Honestly? You can't really ask us because we dont know her.. if she seems really nice and honest, then she's probably just serious and wants to get to know you better. If you think thats it, then make a better effort to get to know her! If she seems like she's the type of person to lead you on, then find someone else.? At 17 there's going to be plenty of girls out there. I'm sure you have plenty of options! If you think she's serious, but you dont want to wait, then find someone else but stay friends with the girl who rejected you because maybe in the future, you guys will go out.
Good Luck!
hey im 17 to! well im not the commitment type of guy so my best advice to you is to keep talking to her if you like her as much as you say you do, but just keep in mind you guys are gettin to know each other try not to fall for her.
if you do or already fell for her then ask her out again cuz it has been 2 months she should know you by now
Girls dont have their heads on strait until they hit about 25. Same goes for you, teenage boy. You have the rest of your life to be tied down to one woman buddy, just have some fun and don't get all caught up in being ';exclusive'; or whatever. You should focus on studying so you can get a good job, then the girls will come naturally..because chicks dig guys who can take them to dinner, buy a house, etc. Focusing on getting a girlfriend at your age is the perfect recipe to end up a total loser.They should print THAT in a textbook.
heyy, im a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend is 20 and we have been together for a little over a year now and he did the same thing to me except he kept me going for 3 months so if you get off at 2 youre lucky ha ha. any way after we started dating i asked him why he waited so long to make a move and he told me that in his past relationships he just rished right into them and they didnt end well and he wanted to make sure we would last..i thought it was sweet, so maybe try asking if she has had any relationships in the past that left her uneasy but if it goes a long time and you guys still havent started dating and she says i dont wanna lose you as a friend, thats your sign that its not gunna happen. goodluck ;)
Don't wait around for her....
I'm almost positive she's not waiting for you. A line like that could only mean she has other interests or she's not interested enough in you.
You say that you both like each other but really think about this - who likes who more ? Who said I like you first ?
Also do you give her things ? (She could be using you)
Does she not want to be seen publicly with you ?
nah,, she wants you.
i'd say.....
she's been hurt before and doesnt want to rush into anything! Staying friends for a while means that she and you can really get to know each other before yous get all serious! If you really like her, and if you can stay in a relationship happily without sex for a while then you should give her all the time she needs, and just let her know exactly how your feeling for her!
In my opinion, this kind of behavior seems attention-seeking.
I've had experience with Girls who've hunted for attention in a similar way, and to be honest after a while it seems like they're so out of reach even though you had feelings for one-another.
I'd just tell her straight and if she still gives the same explanation then I'd just move on. Hope this helps!
It seems like she's not exactly ready for a relationship. Maybe she's been screwed over by some guys, and really wants to get to know you before committing to you. If you really like her, then stick with it. But don't let it last too long, because then it will just be like she's leading you on.
Maybe a date at the moment is moving a little too fast for her. When she says she wants to get to know you that is exactly what she means. So instead of a ';date'; plan a day to ';hang out'; in a casual setting. It could even be a more comfortable situation if you two go with a group hang out.
I think she is serious..she may have some mixed feelings and wants to ensure she really likes you seriously before she takes it to the next level with you...she may also just want to focus on other things at this point in her life..like school or family..and just doesn't have time for a relationship right now
I think that she wants to get to know you better before you date and this a good thing in my opinion :) it's never really good to rush anything. I think it kind of shows that she is serious about being with you which is great. So have fun and get to know eachother more. Good luck
She most definitley have her guard up and maybe from her past relationships she Dont wanna get hurt. So she's still out there Lookin and Pickin around yaknow? She wanna See what else is better Out there. She likes you but Perhaps has another friend on the side she Still wanna Get to know more.
She is definitely not telling you to back off. I think she just doesn't want to rush into anything. Its pretty clear she's not the type you are going to bang on the first date. If you like her enough, you will be patient and help her to get to know you better like she says.
She's probably scared and intimidated about getting into a relationship as are all young adults are.
Or perhaps she isn't allowed to go out until shes 18 or something. That was always a problem with relationships when I was in high school a year ago.
id say shes serious. i like to get to know my guys as well. for real. so i would take it seriously if i were you. why else would she say she likes you? just for he health? no shes being honest. (:
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well it could be either one. but in my opinion i think she just doesnt know what she wants. you need to be straight up. ';whats the deal? why are you waiting so long.';
uhhh, she may be serious, and she may be not wanting you, but i don't think she would tell you that she likes you all the time and then not want you lol.
Well if she is actually trying to get to know you and is spending time with you maybe she is interested in getting to know you first. If she has been ignoring you completly maybe you should back off
I mean like bro,
Give her a chance to get to know you more. You cant rush into being a relationship cause something wrong might happen you know, So don't rush it man, that time will come.
Just get to know her better, ask her questions about her life and what she likes and tell her stuff about you. Let her get to know you better.
to me it sounds she's either
A)not ready for a relationship right now(just give her some time)
B)doesn't want to rush into it
C)just wants to know as much about you as possible
she's probably telling you the truth she just wants to get to know you more so hang out and become best friends and then later on down the road ask her out again
Sorry it depends on the person %26amp; I don't know her. But I can't see where she would try to keep you around at all if she didn't like you.
it sounds like she has other choices and right now she's trying to figure out who to choose. You should definitely move on.
Just work on getting to know her like you said, and maybe let her make the next move. When she's ready to go out with you, she'll let you know one way or another.
~G~
i think shes probably serious. i know plenty of girls that need to truly know someone before they make it official.
At 17 dont worry about girlfriends and all that crap. I tell you, women can kill. Poontang's expensive. That's why when it comes to chicks, I just screw them and leave them. I'd say ';get out of my bedroom, poontang, before you suck my life dry!';
she probably is just nervous about taking the next step and doesnt want to loose a friend if it doesnt work out... this is normal
do something really romantic... like buy her flowers and randomly give them to her or write a cute poem and read it to her
this will make her fall for you
good luck :)There is this girl and i need girl advice?
In my opinion If a girl really likes you, she would jump at the chance to be with you but thats just me. Ask her about her recent relationship it might have something to do with that, because I had a friend who went through a really bad break up in which she felt that she had rushed into a relationship and they guy she was with ended up being REALLY clingy. So when she found another guy she was afraid to go out with him because she didnt want to rush into it like she did with her first boyfriend. I say just be patient for a while and if she still doesnt want to go out with you then let her know that you'er not going to wait for her forever.
She wants to get to know you as a person before she lets herself fall in love you. If you want to date her, ask her to let you know when she is ready for a boyfriend. In the meantime, just continue to talk and get a group together to go bowling or skating or to grab a bite and include her in the group. That way you can go out with her without the pressure of a date and while she can still get to know you.
basically she should just go out with you if she likes you. SHE CAN'T like you if she doesn't know you that well, so what more she wants to know?
i think it's best for her to go out with you so she can learn more since you guys are in a relationship and can talk things through and other type of feelings. otherwise, it's just going to be a friend to friend conversation, nothing more she's going to find out.
i just think she's confused.
Honestly? You can't really ask us because we dont know her.. if she seems really nice and honest, then she's probably just serious and wants to get to know you better. If you think thats it, then make a better effort to get to know her! If she seems like she's the type of person to lead you on, then find someone else.? At 17 there's going to be plenty of girls out there. I'm sure you have plenty of options! If you think she's serious, but you dont want to wait, then find someone else but stay friends with the girl who rejected you because maybe in the future, you guys will go out.
Good Luck!
hey im 17 to! well im not the commitment type of guy so my best advice to you is to keep talking to her if you like her as much as you say you do, but just keep in mind you guys are gettin to know each other try not to fall for her.
if you do or already fell for her then ask her out again cuz it has been 2 months she should know you by now
Girls dont have their heads on strait until they hit about 25. Same goes for you, teenage boy. You have the rest of your life to be tied down to one woman buddy, just have some fun and don't get all caught up in being ';exclusive'; or whatever. You should focus on studying so you can get a good job, then the girls will come naturally..because chicks dig guys who can take them to dinner, buy a house, etc. Focusing on getting a girlfriend at your age is the perfect recipe to end up a total loser.They should print THAT in a textbook.
heyy, im a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend is 20 and we have been together for a little over a year now and he did the same thing to me except he kept me going for 3 months so if you get off at 2 youre lucky ha ha. any way after we started dating i asked him why he waited so long to make a move and he told me that in his past relationships he just rished right into them and they didnt end well and he wanted to make sure we would last..i thought it was sweet, so maybe try asking if she has had any relationships in the past that left her uneasy but if it goes a long time and you guys still havent started dating and she says i dont wanna lose you as a friend, thats your sign that its not gunna happen. goodluck ;)
Don't wait around for her....
I'm almost positive she's not waiting for you. A line like that could only mean she has other interests or she's not interested enough in you.
You say that you both like each other but really think about this - who likes who more ? Who said I like you first ?
Also do you give her things ? (She could be using you)
Does she not want to be seen publicly with you ?
nah,, she wants you.
i'd say.....
she's been hurt before and doesnt want to rush into anything! Staying friends for a while means that she and you can really get to know each other before yous get all serious! If you really like her, and if you can stay in a relationship happily without sex for a while then you should give her all the time she needs, and just let her know exactly how your feeling for her!
In my opinion, this kind of behavior seems attention-seeking.
I've had experience with Girls who've hunted for attention in a similar way, and to be honest after a while it seems like they're so out of reach even though you had feelings for one-another.
I'd just tell her straight and if she still gives the same explanation then I'd just move on. Hope this helps!
It seems like she's not exactly ready for a relationship. Maybe she's been screwed over by some guys, and really wants to get to know you before committing to you. If you really like her, then stick with it. But don't let it last too long, because then it will just be like she's leading you on.
Maybe a date at the moment is moving a little too fast for her. When she says she wants to get to know you that is exactly what she means. So instead of a ';date'; plan a day to ';hang out'; in a casual setting. It could even be a more comfortable situation if you two go with a group hang out.
I think she is serious..she may have some mixed feelings and wants to ensure she really likes you seriously before she takes it to the next level with you...she may also just want to focus on other things at this point in her life..like school or family..and just doesn't have time for a relationship right now
I think that she wants to get to know you better before you date and this a good thing in my opinion :) it's never really good to rush anything. I think it kind of shows that she is serious about being with you which is great. So have fun and get to know eachother more. Good luck
She most definitley have her guard up and maybe from her past relationships she Dont wanna get hurt. So she's still out there Lookin and Pickin around yaknow? She wanna See what else is better Out there. She likes you but Perhaps has another friend on the side she Still wanna Get to know more.
She is definitely not telling you to back off. I think she just doesn't want to rush into anything. Its pretty clear she's not the type you are going to bang on the first date. If you like her enough, you will be patient and help her to get to know you better like she says.
She's probably scared and intimidated about getting into a relationship as are all young adults are.
Or perhaps she isn't allowed to go out until shes 18 or something. That was always a problem with relationships when I was in high school a year ago.
id say shes serious. i like to get to know my guys as well. for real. so i would take it seriously if i were you. why else would she say she likes you? just for he health? no shes being honest. (:
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well it could be either one. but in my opinion i think she just doesnt know what she wants. you need to be straight up. ';whats the deal? why are you waiting so long.';
uhhh, she may be serious, and she may be not wanting you, but i don't think she would tell you that she likes you all the time and then not want you lol.
Well if she is actually trying to get to know you and is spending time with you maybe she is interested in getting to know you first. If she has been ignoring you completly maybe you should back off
I mean like bro,
Give her a chance to get to know you more. You cant rush into being a relationship cause something wrong might happen you know, So don't rush it man, that time will come.
Just get to know her better, ask her questions about her life and what she likes and tell her stuff about you. Let her get to know you better.
to me it sounds she's either
A)not ready for a relationship right now(just give her some time)
B)doesn't want to rush into it
C)just wants to know as much about you as possible
she's probably telling you the truth she just wants to get to know you more so hang out and become best friends and then later on down the road ask her out again
Sorry it depends on the person %26amp; I don't know her. But I can't see where she would try to keep you around at all if she didn't like you.
it sounds like she has other choices and right now she's trying to figure out who to choose. You should definitely move on.
Just work on getting to know her like you said, and maybe let her make the next move. When she's ready to go out with you, she'll let you know one way or another.
~G~
i think shes probably serious. i know plenty of girls that need to truly know someone before they make it official.
At 17 dont worry about girlfriends and all that crap. I tell you, women can kill. Poontang's expensive. That's why when it comes to chicks, I just screw them and leave them. I'd say ';get out of my bedroom, poontang, before you suck my life dry!';
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I go to college and study biology with plenty of girls in my class, 70- 80% girls. However im not too quiet but some times i am. But when i speak i speak with confidence.
My teacher jokes around alot aswell and picks on a few people in particular. However there is one girl i like and some other girls i;d like to be friends with.
How do i joke around more and talk to them. One of them who i want to be friends with always keeps looking at me. Shes the one i want to be friends with. She and her friend are the most talkative and control the class and the ones the teacher picks on and teases.
So what approach do i take. Should i be cocky and i dnt think so being rude will help right?
Any help will be good.Need some serious girl advice:?
hmmm... well you could definetly start small.
you know, call them about homework one day or ask them for help in class.
Since i'm a girl, i think its easier for me to talk with a guy if they are really easy going. Don't be uptight. most girls dont really like that
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My teacher jokes around alot aswell and picks on a few people in particular. However there is one girl i like and some other girls i;d like to be friends with.
How do i joke around more and talk to them. One of them who i want to be friends with always keeps looking at me. Shes the one i want to be friends with. She and her friend are the most talkative and control the class and the ones the teacher picks on and teases.
So what approach do i take. Should i be cocky and i dnt think so being rude will help right?
Any help will be good.Need some serious girl advice:?
hmmm... well you could definetly start small.
you know, call them about homework one day or ask them for help in class.
Since i'm a girl, i think its easier for me to talk with a guy if they are really easy going. Don't be uptight. most girls dont really like that
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I have been friends with a girl since 4th grade(we are now sophomores). I have always liked her, she has never admitted her she likes, so I have never told her that I like her. She can't date until she turns 16(next MAY). Should I tell her that I like her now or wait until then. I don't want to wait too long and have it be too late. We text all the time, and talk once in a while. She isn't a girly girl BTW. I don't know what to do, I don't want it to be too late for us to have a chance. Any suggestions?Help! I need girl advice?
I think you should at least tell her how you feel and see if she feels the same way about you. (:
I think you should at least tell her how you feel and see if she feels the same way about you. (:
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Well I'm an upperclassmen and I've never had gf before so I guess I can say Im new to all of this in a way. Recently I got extemely drunk and had a change of mind when I thought about my life. wierd huh?
I was tired of not taking advantages in my life and talking to the girls I have liked in the past. as of now, I talk to a couple of girls but the oone i talk to the most lives in another state.. so yea. We have met in the past a couple of times and seemed to get along..
we talked a lot about different things.. so Ive come to the point where I talk to her on the internet only and ive run out of things to talk about. It has mostly reduced to a hi, whats up, bye thing. should I cut it and run or should I try to find some commen ground? thanksAnyone give some Girl advice anyone...?
i think you have run out of things to talk about because you are not actually together doing things and experiencing things together, you don't have enough history under your belts to be able to make something work long distance, you don't know the most intimate parts about each other (no, i'm not talking about sex) if you were in a position to be able to see each other frequently, like a couple times a week, then yes i think you would have a shot at making this work. but because you are trying to evolve a relationship over the internet, it likely won't work because it is all dependant on what you have to say..being in or establishing a relationship requires face time too, not just phone or internet..if you really like her and have the financial means to see her more often then yes, quite possibly this can work. but if you are expecting to learn all about each other online you are going to have a hard time sweetie. i would take what you have learned and experienced from her friendship and apply that to whomever may come into your life now, where you live. you seem down to earth and rational, you will not have a problem whatsoever finding a girlfriend, you have the most important idea down pat..finding common ground. i hope this helps you a little bit, best of luck to you hun :)
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You should try to meet up. If you can meet, see how things go. See if you are attracted to her, wanting to be affectionate towards her, have a great conversation, undrstanding.
It's hard when it's distance. You were probably really excited before and when that haapens, you talk about everything in the books until it runs dry.
You are still young. I would also continue to talk to women around your school. Don't limit yourself, because the fact is, she is in another state. If it's meant you all will make it happen.
if conversation has died down mutually then it may be that you two are either keeping an intentional distance or that there isnt that much common interests between the two of you. either way it sounds like like the internet interaction has reached its end. Try to meet up and if its the same then you'll know.
A relationship (no matter what kind it is) needs growth.. if it seems as if it can't grow anymore, then you're only dwelling in dead weeds. I'd say tell her that this friendship has gotten has far as it an and end it on an honest, but kind note. Just running away will only make you seem like a coward. She at least deserves some closure.
If your that interested in her ;; take a weekend off or aside for jus her and have like a little date and she if conversation builds from there if you feel that it's not goin anywhere well then move on..but if she seems interested like yu then keep tryin and find things to talk about like movies..sports...uhmm stuff happenin in the world her school?..job ?? anything and hope everything will work out
dont give up.there are plents of things to talk about.school family. favorite things to do.once you get talking it becomes a lot easier to keep conversation going.i think your just shy and not used to it.theres always a chance just relax and once your calm the words will be easier
Uhh, if you have nothing to say, you have nothing to say. So ';cut and run'; I suppose. You're not gonna get with this girl if that's what you're asking.
you just need to get laid my friend
Send her nudies
Well, if I were you, I'd go around your school and look for some people there. Who knows, you might find someone! :D
ugh i guess leave her n find someone in ur state dude
I was tired of not taking advantages in my life and talking to the girls I have liked in the past. as of now, I talk to a couple of girls but the oone i talk to the most lives in another state.. so yea. We have met in the past a couple of times and seemed to get along..
we talked a lot about different things.. so Ive come to the point where I talk to her on the internet only and ive run out of things to talk about. It has mostly reduced to a hi, whats up, bye thing. should I cut it and run or should I try to find some commen ground? thanksAnyone give some Girl advice anyone...?
i think you have run out of things to talk about because you are not actually together doing things and experiencing things together, you don't have enough history under your belts to be able to make something work long distance, you don't know the most intimate parts about each other (no, i'm not talking about sex) if you were in a position to be able to see each other frequently, like a couple times a week, then yes i think you would have a shot at making this work. but because you are trying to evolve a relationship over the internet, it likely won't work because it is all dependant on what you have to say..being in or establishing a relationship requires face time too, not just phone or internet..if you really like her and have the financial means to see her more often then yes, quite possibly this can work. but if you are expecting to learn all about each other online you are going to have a hard time sweetie. i would take what you have learned and experienced from her friendship and apply that to whomever may come into your life now, where you live. you seem down to earth and rational, you will not have a problem whatsoever finding a girlfriend, you have the most important idea down pat..finding common ground. i hope this helps you a little bit, best of luck to you hun :)
*hugs*Anyone give some Girl advice anyone...?
You should try to meet up. If you can meet, see how things go. See if you are attracted to her, wanting to be affectionate towards her, have a great conversation, undrstanding.
It's hard when it's distance. You were probably really excited before and when that haapens, you talk about everything in the books until it runs dry.
You are still young. I would also continue to talk to women around your school. Don't limit yourself, because the fact is, she is in another state. If it's meant you all will make it happen.
if conversation has died down mutually then it may be that you two are either keeping an intentional distance or that there isnt that much common interests between the two of you. either way it sounds like like the internet interaction has reached its end. Try to meet up and if its the same then you'll know.
A relationship (no matter what kind it is) needs growth.. if it seems as if it can't grow anymore, then you're only dwelling in dead weeds. I'd say tell her that this friendship has gotten has far as it an and end it on an honest, but kind note. Just running away will only make you seem like a coward. She at least deserves some closure.
If your that interested in her ;; take a weekend off or aside for jus her and have like a little date and she if conversation builds from there if you feel that it's not goin anywhere well then move on..but if she seems interested like yu then keep tryin and find things to talk about like movies..sports...uhmm stuff happenin in the world her school?..job ?? anything and hope everything will work out
dont give up.there are plents of things to talk about.school family. favorite things to do.once you get talking it becomes a lot easier to keep conversation going.i think your just shy and not used to it.theres always a chance just relax and once your calm the words will be easier
Uhh, if you have nothing to say, you have nothing to say. So ';cut and run'; I suppose. You're not gonna get with this girl if that's what you're asking.
you just need to get laid my friend
Send her nudies
Well, if I were you, I'd go around your school and look for some people there. Who knows, you might find someone! :D
ugh i guess leave her n find someone in ur state dude
I need some girl advice!?
i am thirteen and i havent started my period yet, but all my friends have and they have all had sex and they say how great it is when you're with the right person, but whenever i get offered( don't ask me why i'm not exactly pretty) i always chicken out..... i dont know wether im scared or i just want to do it with someone who i actually like and know he wont stab me in the back straight away :( xxI need some girl advice!?
Hi Ellie,
Ok, lets start with your concerns over your period. Girls start at different ages, and it's perfectly normal for you to have not started your period yet. Don't worry.
If nothing happens within a year or so, I would then think about seeing your doctor.
Secondly, about the other girls who are having sex at 13. Now, some of them may be and I would guess that most of them are not. You say that you have chickened out from having sex, which means that you don't want to. That's fine.
It's perfectly OK to be different from your friends in some ways, the world would be dull if we were all the same. A lot of people like to wait until they are in a relationship before they have sex for the first time so that they trust the person that they are with. It's OK to wait, it's OK to do what you want, just make sure that you do what YOU want and not what you think you should do. You only get one first time.
Remember sex is something that your body is designed to do as an adult, and before you get your period, ie you are not sexually mature and it is not a good idea.
Having sex for the first time is such an important event in your life, you will always remember it and you will always remember who it was with. You may want to look back on your first time with a smile rather than with regret.
I would like to respond to one of the other answers. Someone said that if you have sex before your first period you will never be able to have kids. That is just not true.
LI need some girl advice!?
your 13! im sorry but thats not right atall to be even thinking about it.
so what if your friends have (but personally i doubt they even have, people will say absolute anything to become popular or make themselves feel better) you shouldnt feel the need to have sex just because they say its good and they have. your 13 for crying out loud!
be a normal 13 year old girl, hang around with your friends, have a laugh. but sex thats just not necessary at such a young age. i know nowadays people are losing there virginity's at a young age, and maybe you feel pressured into doing it,
and about your period, dont be bothered about that atall.
i know loads of girls that didnt start til they were 15-16.
and anyway, trust me. the later you start your period, the better. not exactly the most amazing thing in the world.
and im not being rude or anything. but at your age, you will probably never find 'the right person'. the only thing lads at your age want you for is to get in your knickers. so why give them that satisfaction? a girl who does nothing with a lad and keeps her dignity is much a better person than a girl who does everything just to fit in with friends. trust me.
be sensible. dont make a wrong mistake. you could really regret it.
at thirteen i don't think any girl is mature enough to cope with a sexual relationship. many young people claim they have had sex when they hav'n't as they think it makes them look 'big'. everyone starts puberty at different times, so don't worry about your periods. i work in a school, and i would say most thirteen year olds are virgins of both sexes. my advice... wait until YOU are ready for a relationship, never try and compete with 'friends' or indeed feel the odd one out, you are right in wanting to wait until the right person comes along
Take your time, dont rush in to having sex. It may sound old fashioned, but treat your body like a temple. It only takes one time to get a vanerial disease or get pregnant. And you not getting your period is ok, your body is just taking its time. There is nothing wrong with you.
Please listen to this, you are not cool, to have sex early. Be someone different and wait. You will respect your self more and so will the boys.
Take care
You sound very mature for 13. Don't let those people who are not mature make you wonder about yourself. DS is right, people lie! You just stick with what your decisions. You are smart, you will know when it is the right time and you are right for wanting a guy who will treat you nicely. Who wants to be totally humiliated? I am proud of you for thinking of more than just the present moment. You keep taking care of yourself, you are doing fine and will be happy with yourself when you are older, like in your 20s.
At 13 you shouldn't even be thinking about sex.let me ell you if your friends have had sex already they are very silly.wait until your much older . there is a saying i have always belived in, it goes somethin like this, be the one everyone wants not the one everyones had.
hope you do wait im 32 so im not that old but i fell in love at 15 had my forst child at 16 then another at 17 then my last one at 30,but i was one of the lucky ones im still with the dad of my children he was my first and i love him more today than i ever have,some of my friends though had children yong ended up in bad relationships and have really messed up lives.
Alright, well I am sure that it is really hard for you to hear all of that from your friends, but you need to be strong and say no every time. Just wait until you are much, much older. Imagine if your parents found out! Just wait until after you get married. I think that it would be really dumb to ruin your life based on one night. Imagine how happy you will be when are you are not the pregnant one between all of your friends!
For GODS sake, enjoy your childhood whilst you can. Why do you want to grow up so fast and get into the complicated and painful business of sex and love? Just stick to a snog for now...
You don't have to do what your friends do, be your own person, do what you feel comfortable with... you'll go further in life
DONT HAVE SEX!!!
listen to me!! seriousy!! im not ur mom, im a complete stranger and believe me when i tell you its NOT worth having sex when your 13...omigod, i cant believe kids that age do that...do you have any idea how much it increases your chances of getting cancer when youre older?! wait for someone who will make it actually MEAN something other than being like your friends, who you will probably not even be in touch with in a few years time...
as for your period, wait till youre 16, and then get worried. dont worry about it, all it is is a pain in the neck..your better off without it for now.
Look, yur friends can rub it in all they want about it ..it's not that great they're prolly jus tryin to make u lose your virginity so they can have somethin against you... stay who u are ignore wat they do cause premarital sex is against God although the majority of girls have already had sex, they lost their innocence and totally regret it... Good Luck!..
one;
don't have sex before you start your period, you won't be able to have kids.
two;
none of your friends have had sex, they're just saying that to look cool.
you'll start your period when you start it.
and don't have sex until it's with someone you love or you'll regret it.
If your scared to do it.then your obviously not ready to do it.im 22 and i lost my virginity when i was 14 because all the girls were doing it.i regret it and gutted about ever since. it cos i wasent ready and the boyfriend i had was pushing me to do it.you never forget your first time.oh how i wish i could.
so do it wen your ready.you will now when your ready cos your gut will tell you when its right.
underage sex is never a good idea hun
dont follow ur mates maybe u shud watch the story about a girl called kizzy who got prgnant at 13 she had a load of abuse thrown at her fo gettin pregnant so young the best thing to do is to wait til ur old enuf u mite regret it later if u have underage sex now
13 is way too young to be having sex...
you dont want to be the type of girl that has a baby when she's 16.
wait for the right boy to come along... there is no need to rush things... sex isn't that bigger deal, just make sure to wait for the right guy. its not all its cracked up to be.
you are thirteen....please do not have sex. It is a descision you will probably regret for the rest of your life unless you marry the boy you sleep with.
Wait some time. Having sex is not like holding hands or kissing...rethink the peer pressure fo ryour own good.
k girl let me tell u something ur periods stuff is natural and u cannot help it
but u feeling to have sex at age of thirteen is not so good plz think twice before u act and ur friends r they sick i think they might be lying to u so plz dont listen to them and take care
Dont worry!! lots of girls havent started yet anyway.
yeahh i have a friend who said they have had sex... yhh rightt!! If i was you i wouldnt worry about it. also i wouldnt say its a good thing have sex at thirteen.
:) xx
you're too young to have sex. and it's against the law. don't do it unless you're ready. ignore your friends. don't be pressured into anything. good luck.
wtf is your problem ?
you're thirteen ?
first off; not to be harsh but you don't even have your period... haha and you are thinking about having sex ?
god help you..
ur friends are lying sex at 13 is never great... ur too young anyway... but luckily ur smart.. wait for the right guy...when ur older who knows how to treat a woman right and then it will be great... right now it will just be messy and embarrassing
I bet they haven't had sex ;]
People will say pretty much anything to be popular...
your friends are probably not even having sex. dont feel pressured babes, save yourself. you'll know when it feels right (: x
You'll never regret saying ';no';
Don't let yourself be pressured in to that.
right what i say is wait for the right person...u don't wanna be those girls who has been round the block a few times....also its not chickening out......
13? What the he!! is wrong with you and your freinds, go away!
you 13 and your debating whether or not you should have sex????
gd help you...
Hi Ellie,
Ok, lets start with your concerns over your period. Girls start at different ages, and it's perfectly normal for you to have not started your period yet. Don't worry.
If nothing happens within a year or so, I would then think about seeing your doctor.
Secondly, about the other girls who are having sex at 13. Now, some of them may be and I would guess that most of them are not. You say that you have chickened out from having sex, which means that you don't want to. That's fine.
It's perfectly OK to be different from your friends in some ways, the world would be dull if we were all the same. A lot of people like to wait until they are in a relationship before they have sex for the first time so that they trust the person that they are with. It's OK to wait, it's OK to do what you want, just make sure that you do what YOU want and not what you think you should do. You only get one first time.
Remember sex is something that your body is designed to do as an adult, and before you get your period, ie you are not sexually mature and it is not a good idea.
Having sex for the first time is such an important event in your life, you will always remember it and you will always remember who it was with. You may want to look back on your first time with a smile rather than with regret.
I would like to respond to one of the other answers. Someone said that if you have sex before your first period you will never be able to have kids. That is just not true.
LI need some girl advice!?
your 13! im sorry but thats not right atall to be even thinking about it.
so what if your friends have (but personally i doubt they even have, people will say absolute anything to become popular or make themselves feel better) you shouldnt feel the need to have sex just because they say its good and they have. your 13 for crying out loud!
be a normal 13 year old girl, hang around with your friends, have a laugh. but sex thats just not necessary at such a young age. i know nowadays people are losing there virginity's at a young age, and maybe you feel pressured into doing it,
and about your period, dont be bothered about that atall.
i know loads of girls that didnt start til they were 15-16.
and anyway, trust me. the later you start your period, the better. not exactly the most amazing thing in the world.
and im not being rude or anything. but at your age, you will probably never find 'the right person'. the only thing lads at your age want you for is to get in your knickers. so why give them that satisfaction? a girl who does nothing with a lad and keeps her dignity is much a better person than a girl who does everything just to fit in with friends. trust me.
be sensible. dont make a wrong mistake. you could really regret it.
at thirteen i don't think any girl is mature enough to cope with a sexual relationship. many young people claim they have had sex when they hav'n't as they think it makes them look 'big'. everyone starts puberty at different times, so don't worry about your periods. i work in a school, and i would say most thirteen year olds are virgins of both sexes. my advice... wait until YOU are ready for a relationship, never try and compete with 'friends' or indeed feel the odd one out, you are right in wanting to wait until the right person comes along
Take your time, dont rush in to having sex. It may sound old fashioned, but treat your body like a temple. It only takes one time to get a vanerial disease or get pregnant. And you not getting your period is ok, your body is just taking its time. There is nothing wrong with you.
Please listen to this, you are not cool, to have sex early. Be someone different and wait. You will respect your self more and so will the boys.
Take care
You sound very mature for 13. Don't let those people who are not mature make you wonder about yourself. DS is right, people lie! You just stick with what your decisions. You are smart, you will know when it is the right time and you are right for wanting a guy who will treat you nicely. Who wants to be totally humiliated? I am proud of you for thinking of more than just the present moment. You keep taking care of yourself, you are doing fine and will be happy with yourself when you are older, like in your 20s.
At 13 you shouldn't even be thinking about sex.let me ell you if your friends have had sex already they are very silly.wait until your much older . there is a saying i have always belived in, it goes somethin like this, be the one everyone wants not the one everyones had.
hope you do wait im 32 so im not that old but i fell in love at 15 had my forst child at 16 then another at 17 then my last one at 30,but i was one of the lucky ones im still with the dad of my children he was my first and i love him more today than i ever have,some of my friends though had children yong ended up in bad relationships and have really messed up lives.
Alright, well I am sure that it is really hard for you to hear all of that from your friends, but you need to be strong and say no every time. Just wait until you are much, much older. Imagine if your parents found out! Just wait until after you get married. I think that it would be really dumb to ruin your life based on one night. Imagine how happy you will be when are you are not the pregnant one between all of your friends!
For GODS sake, enjoy your childhood whilst you can. Why do you want to grow up so fast and get into the complicated and painful business of sex and love? Just stick to a snog for now...
You don't have to do what your friends do, be your own person, do what you feel comfortable with... you'll go further in life
DONT HAVE SEX!!!
listen to me!! seriousy!! im not ur mom, im a complete stranger and believe me when i tell you its NOT worth having sex when your 13...omigod, i cant believe kids that age do that...do you have any idea how much it increases your chances of getting cancer when youre older?! wait for someone who will make it actually MEAN something other than being like your friends, who you will probably not even be in touch with in a few years time...
as for your period, wait till youre 16, and then get worried. dont worry about it, all it is is a pain in the neck..your better off without it for now.
Look, yur friends can rub it in all they want about it ..it's not that great they're prolly jus tryin to make u lose your virginity so they can have somethin against you... stay who u are ignore wat they do cause premarital sex is against God although the majority of girls have already had sex, they lost their innocence and totally regret it... Good Luck!..
one;
don't have sex before you start your period, you won't be able to have kids.
two;
none of your friends have had sex, they're just saying that to look cool.
you'll start your period when you start it.
and don't have sex until it's with someone you love or you'll regret it.
If your scared to do it.then your obviously not ready to do it.im 22 and i lost my virginity when i was 14 because all the girls were doing it.i regret it and gutted about ever since. it cos i wasent ready and the boyfriend i had was pushing me to do it.you never forget your first time.oh how i wish i could.
so do it wen your ready.you will now when your ready cos your gut will tell you when its right.
underage sex is never a good idea hun
dont follow ur mates maybe u shud watch the story about a girl called kizzy who got prgnant at 13 she had a load of abuse thrown at her fo gettin pregnant so young the best thing to do is to wait til ur old enuf u mite regret it later if u have underage sex now
13 is way too young to be having sex...
you dont want to be the type of girl that has a baby when she's 16.
wait for the right boy to come along... there is no need to rush things... sex isn't that bigger deal, just make sure to wait for the right guy. its not all its cracked up to be.
you are thirteen....please do not have sex. It is a descision you will probably regret for the rest of your life unless you marry the boy you sleep with.
Wait some time. Having sex is not like holding hands or kissing...rethink the peer pressure fo ryour own good.
k girl let me tell u something ur periods stuff is natural and u cannot help it
but u feeling to have sex at age of thirteen is not so good plz think twice before u act and ur friends r they sick i think they might be lying to u so plz dont listen to them and take care
Dont worry!! lots of girls havent started yet anyway.
yeahh i have a friend who said they have had sex... yhh rightt!! If i was you i wouldnt worry about it. also i wouldnt say its a good thing have sex at thirteen.
:) xx
you're too young to have sex. and it's against the law. don't do it unless you're ready. ignore your friends. don't be pressured into anything. good luck.
wtf is your problem ?
you're thirteen ?
first off; not to be harsh but you don't even have your period... haha and you are thinking about having sex ?
god help you..
ur friends are lying sex at 13 is never great... ur too young anyway... but luckily ur smart.. wait for the right guy...when ur older who knows how to treat a woman right and then it will be great... right now it will just be messy and embarrassing
I bet they haven't had sex ;]
People will say pretty much anything to be popular...
your friends are probably not even having sex. dont feel pressured babes, save yourself. you'll know when it feels right (: x
You'll never regret saying ';no';
Don't let yourself be pressured in to that.
right what i say is wait for the right person...u don't wanna be those girls who has been round the block a few times....also its not chickening out......
13? What the he!! is wrong with you and your freinds, go away!
you 13 and your debating whether or not you should have sex????
gd help you...
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