There's this girl who I have known since high school (8 plus years) and were are very close friends. However during times in college I have been extremely attracted to her. We go out together on occasion but there is no sense of anything other than friendship. I want to break that and try to cross the line from friends to a relationship. What advice do you guys/ladies have to help me in this situation....
What would be the best way to break the ice and explain how I feel to her.....I need some Girl Advice.....?
I've been in this situation before. I'm a girl, and my best guy friend started liking me. When I heard this from a friend, I was a little overwhelmed at first because I didn't want to ruin our friendship because it was so amazing. However, over time, I started talking to friends and asking for their advice on whether I should go through with going out with him. My friend said that I never know what experience I will get out of it; maybe he could be the one? So I did, and I ended up extremely happy.
My point is, talk to some people you trust about it; just to let the feelings out to see if you're comfortable saying it. Then, tell her. You never know what can happen. What if she gives you a chance and you guys completely hit it off? If you've been friends with her THIS long and you know her, you probably know that she'll really adore you. :)
Hope that helped. I need some Girl Advice.....?
First you probably want to see if she might feel the same for you. Think back and see if there are any hints that she has ever given you as far as you and her goes. Think, what kind of guys has she gone for in the past? Are they anything like you, looks, personality, ETC..? If that all checks out, surprise her with flower one of these days and sit her down and come clean. She is either going to turn you down, and if she does if you still want to keep your friendship be cool, DON'T flip. Or she will feel the same about you and say yes.
just say to her that u want to be more than a best friend.she will catch wat u mean..
u'll never know till u ve tried
Monday, August 23, 2010
I need some ';girl advice';...?
I'm emailing this girl on a dating site. We have been sending lengthy emails back and forth a few times. I mentioned surgery, she said what for, and I told her (circumcision), and said how I know it's usually for babies but my doc recommended it so I decided to ';take it like a man, lol.'; Then I told her if she had any questions out of curiosity she could ask.
I can tell she is still interested from her reply...but in response to the surgery she said, ';You are very brave for going through a circumcision at your age. And no, no questions/comments about it. Enough said.';
Do you think it was a weird subject for her? Awkward? Girls what would you be thinking in that situation?I need some ';girl advice';...?
Yep. That subject is a little weird. There is a such thing as Too Much Information.I need some ';girl advice';...?
Yeah - I'd be curious why you'd want to do that as an adult. That's a pretty personal thing to share with someone.
That was nice of you to tell her she could ask you questions, but she probably felt uncomfortable and is probably questioning things with or about you now.
I don't know why you'd want to get that done other than to look like other guys or to not scare away unexposed women.
Don't tell her anything else that might freak her out...at least not now.
i think she just doesnt care too much about it. although she probably isnt being a ***** about it either? come on, do you really want to have a lengthy conversation about a circumcision at your age before you even meet her or sleep with her? only sluts would sit there and gush over it without having met you.
Quite honestly, I believe it's more of a personal issue. I'm far from prudish, but it's not really a subject of interest for me. It's nice that you can share that with her, but I wouldn't want to be chatting about it. Nothing against you though, I just feel that way.
It's just a surgery, that's all. Why would she have more questions? Just drop the subject, lol, it's no big deal.
If it was me, I would think ';Good, he's had the procedure. Moving on.';
You should've waited until you got to know her a little better. Because you mentioning that might have creeped her out a little bit since you have barely sent a few messages to each other.
I wouldn't mind talking about it with someone I knew a lot better. It's not really that weird of a subject, except when you're just starting to talk to someone.
Slow down, buddy.
It sounds like she artfully dodged a conversation that could have ended up in a place she didn't want to go. Namely, discussing sex. Let it be.
TROLL
sad internet dating hahaha
she is probably waiting for you to tell her what you want her to know, and doesnt like to pry, I guess
I would be thinking ';why is this guy telling me about getting his penis snipped?';
*akward silence and thumb twiddling';
Soooooooo . . . how bout that television ?
If you understand what my answer is now :P
If you're being serious, why would you tell her such a thing?
awkward.......
awkward...
very awkward
I sure as hell wouldn't wanna talk about that
sounds shady ...dont meet her anywhere
This is a famous Jonas Brothers quote which is true for that girl: AWKWARD!
I wouldn't wanna know either.
Dumb@ss why would you even bring that up?
my friend..
you're screwed
i think it was kind of awkward for her, but at least she respects that you did that rather than just think you are some kind of freak for it. i would be thinking...well, probably just that same thing she wrote..and thinking its a bit awkwardcosmetics makeup
I can tell she is still interested from her reply...but in response to the surgery she said, ';You are very brave for going through a circumcision at your age. And no, no questions/comments about it. Enough said.';
Do you think it was a weird subject for her? Awkward? Girls what would you be thinking in that situation?I need some ';girl advice';...?
Yep. That subject is a little weird. There is a such thing as Too Much Information.I need some ';girl advice';...?
Yeah - I'd be curious why you'd want to do that as an adult. That's a pretty personal thing to share with someone.
That was nice of you to tell her she could ask you questions, but she probably felt uncomfortable and is probably questioning things with or about you now.
I don't know why you'd want to get that done other than to look like other guys or to not scare away unexposed women.
Don't tell her anything else that might freak her out...at least not now.
i think she just doesnt care too much about it. although she probably isnt being a ***** about it either? come on, do you really want to have a lengthy conversation about a circumcision at your age before you even meet her or sleep with her? only sluts would sit there and gush over it without having met you.
Quite honestly, I believe it's more of a personal issue. I'm far from prudish, but it's not really a subject of interest for me. It's nice that you can share that with her, but I wouldn't want to be chatting about it. Nothing against you though, I just feel that way.
It's just a surgery, that's all. Why would she have more questions? Just drop the subject, lol, it's no big deal.
If it was me, I would think ';Good, he's had the procedure. Moving on.';
You should've waited until you got to know her a little better. Because you mentioning that might have creeped her out a little bit since you have barely sent a few messages to each other.
I wouldn't mind talking about it with someone I knew a lot better. It's not really that weird of a subject, except when you're just starting to talk to someone.
Slow down, buddy.
It sounds like she artfully dodged a conversation that could have ended up in a place she didn't want to go. Namely, discussing sex. Let it be.
TROLL
sad internet dating hahaha
she is probably waiting for you to tell her what you want her to know, and doesnt like to pry, I guess
I would be thinking ';why is this guy telling me about getting his penis snipped?';
*akward silence and thumb twiddling';
Soooooooo . . . how bout that television ?
If you understand what my answer is now :P
If you're being serious, why would you tell her such a thing?
awkward.......
awkward...
very awkward
I sure as hell wouldn't wanna talk about that
sounds shady ...dont meet her anywhere
This is a famous Jonas Brothers quote which is true for that girl: AWKWARD!
I wouldn't wanna know either.
Dumb@ss why would you even bring that up?
my friend..
you're screwed
i think it was kind of awkward for her, but at least she respects that you did that rather than just think you are some kind of freak for it. i would be thinking...well, probably just that same thing she wrote..and thinking its a bit awkward
Need some general girl advice? Anyone?
So I am head over heels in love with this girl. I would truly die for her. She is the best thing that's ever happened to me in the world.
You get it.
Her family and mine both used to be real religious and strict, but were not any more, but the relationship teen thing has lingered. There's a sort of unspoken disapproval of that.
She knows I like her. Her little sister asked her if she liked me and my little sister told me that the girl I love answered really vaguly. She acts like she likes me. Everyone knows I like her.
I want to communicate my feelings, I feel like I HAVE to, but I don't know how! If I tell her outright she'll think that's weird.
I'm 17 and she's a very mature 15.5 ( as in she already runs a sewing business by herself. Coordinates all the finances arranges all the shows.)
Advice? Anything is welcome! I'm not real experienced in this type of stuff.
Thanx 4 reading!Need some general girl advice? Anyone?
I wouldn't just come out with it, this may make her uncomfortable. Take it slow with small talk, maybe a walk. Every now and then, compliment her lightly, outfit, her smile, etc. not too heavy. Down the road tell her that you like her and you'd like to take her out to dinner. Remember, slow, it seems like she may be a little shy. Good luckNeed some general girl advice? Anyone?
try asking her to hang out (make sure u mention its NOT a date)
do smthng fun and interesting that guys will both love
also try to pick up something small %26amp; inexpensive beforehand
then if the time feels right, say something like ';ur a really special person, I'm glad I met you.....hey that reminds me I saw this the other day %26amp; it reminded me of u'; *presents gift*
who knows? she might end up saying it to u!!
hope i helped and good luck(:
awww!! i say do something really special to show that you like her. both of ur familes will surely understand if you show that you are really true.
tell her you like her a lot see were it goes
She probably does like you, just scared about the teen relationship thing too. Maybe she's bent on society that teen relationships hurt and don't last, and she doesn't want to risk being hurt.
I would just take it slow with her, and it will all unfold in time. Try to spend more time with her and wait for the perfect moment to express how you truly feel. She will express it too.
Don't be too persistent though, she will feel suffocated and feel like you're obsessed. She will be embarrassed.
All in all, be patient and good things will come!
Hope this helps!
take her out. not like a date, because if her parents are not to shabby about the idea then they might turn into exorcist or something, but invite her sister and your sister that way they wont get the wrong idea...that way you can get to know her and win points with her sister and her family because you included her younger sister...start off slow, she seems very focus on what she wants to do (even thought she 15.5; you gotta start somewhere)..dont be trying to do much because of course the younger sisters will be watching...give her hints and say stuff in codes...hell text her lol...but dont and i repeat DO NOT SAY YOU LOVE HER UNTIL YOU KNOW THE FEELING IS MUTUAL...this can put any girl in a very weird position...and be yourself...make her like you for you!!!
You get it.
Her family and mine both used to be real religious and strict, but were not any more, but the relationship teen thing has lingered. There's a sort of unspoken disapproval of that.
She knows I like her. Her little sister asked her if she liked me and my little sister told me that the girl I love answered really vaguly. She acts like she likes me. Everyone knows I like her.
I want to communicate my feelings, I feel like I HAVE to, but I don't know how! If I tell her outright she'll think that's weird.
I'm 17 and she's a very mature 15.5 ( as in she already runs a sewing business by herself. Coordinates all the finances arranges all the shows.)
Advice? Anything is welcome! I'm not real experienced in this type of stuff.
Thanx 4 reading!Need some general girl advice? Anyone?
I wouldn't just come out with it, this may make her uncomfortable. Take it slow with small talk, maybe a walk. Every now and then, compliment her lightly, outfit, her smile, etc. not too heavy. Down the road tell her that you like her and you'd like to take her out to dinner. Remember, slow, it seems like she may be a little shy. Good luckNeed some general girl advice? Anyone?
try asking her to hang out (make sure u mention its NOT a date)
do smthng fun and interesting that guys will both love
also try to pick up something small %26amp; inexpensive beforehand
then if the time feels right, say something like ';ur a really special person, I'm glad I met you.....hey that reminds me I saw this the other day %26amp; it reminded me of u'; *presents gift*
who knows? she might end up saying it to u!!
hope i helped and good luck(:
awww!! i say do something really special to show that you like her. both of ur familes will surely understand if you show that you are really true.
tell her you like her a lot see were it goes
She probably does like you, just scared about the teen relationship thing too. Maybe she's bent on society that teen relationships hurt and don't last, and she doesn't want to risk being hurt.
I would just take it slow with her, and it will all unfold in time. Try to spend more time with her and wait for the perfect moment to express how you truly feel. She will express it too.
Don't be too persistent though, she will feel suffocated and feel like you're obsessed. She will be embarrassed.
All in all, be patient and good things will come!
Hope this helps!
take her out. not like a date, because if her parents are not to shabby about the idea then they might turn into exorcist or something, but invite her sister and your sister that way they wont get the wrong idea...that way you can get to know her and win points with her sister and her family because you included her younger sister...start off slow, she seems very focus on what she wants to do (even thought she 15.5; you gotta start somewhere)..dont be trying to do much because of course the younger sisters will be watching...give her hints and say stuff in codes...hell text her lol...but dont and i repeat DO NOT SAY YOU LOVE HER UNTIL YOU KNOW THE FEELING IS MUTUAL...this can put any girl in a very weird position...and be yourself...make her like you for you!!!
I need some girl advice...pronto :)?
okay i met this girl through myspace..talked a bit on there and moved to texting...this is the first girl i have really ever pursued (i'm shy) so i am extremely inexperienced in this situation. anyways, we haven't really spoken about dating stuff like what type of people we look for or anything like that (i want to though); just basically interests we both have and share...okay here's my question: should i mention to her that she's the only girl i have really pursued or really ever tried to get to know? and that i really like talking to her?..the reason i am asking this is because i don't want to come off too strong and or as a desperate/lonely dude. would you be weirded out about a guy that has never really had a girl friend at the age of 22 O.o (she's 20 btw)? should i say anything or just forget about it? this girl is super cool and i don't want to blow it..thanks.I need some girl advice...pronto :)?
Ok I am a 23 yr old girl and I am tryong to put myself in your girls shoes haha. I would say on the first or second date when it is typical normal questions about previous relationships I would say casually and CALM that you haven't had a serious g/f. Say it that way so she does't think you are unexperienced, even though you might be. If you say she is the first girl you have ever pursued then she might be a little taken back because not knowing what you want. Just don't bring up your past or lack there of. That topic just comes out casually. Good Luck you seem like a sweety and will do fine.I need some girl advice...pronto :)?
You don't need to tell her you've never had a girlfriend... and you don't need to make it a big deal. If you want a date... take her to the movies... but her ticket... and get some candy to share... you wont be stuck trying to make conversation the whole time because you'll be watching the movie. And some girls like shy guys, but try to come out of your shell just a little bit.
you should tell her she will probably take that as a good thing and will be like thanks so go for it and plz tell me how it goes thanks
i wouldn't tell her that your inexperienced. she might think your weird or something. i wouldn't really talk to her about the dating thing yet. arrange somewhere cool to meet. like a movie or someplace like that. so you two can meet each other and see if you really like her. go on dates for a little while to make sure shes into you and you get to know her well. then ask her if she wants to start dating you.
Hi! If i were in your position i wouldnt tell her just yet....she may feel like she has a ton of pressure on her because of that..maybe wait a little bit until you are better friends than tell her! Good luck!!
well obviously she likes you. so don't blow it. just keep on being yourself b/c she likes you how you are. if i were you i wouldn't go telling her right off the bat that you haven't ever pursued girl before, she might think that you are desperate. tell her after a while. just be you and everything will fall into place.
Ok I am a 23 yr old girl and I am tryong to put myself in your girls shoes haha. I would say on the first or second date when it is typical normal questions about previous relationships I would say casually and CALM that you haven't had a serious g/f. Say it that way so she does't think you are unexperienced, even though you might be. If you say she is the first girl you have ever pursued then she might be a little taken back because not knowing what you want. Just don't bring up your past or lack there of. That topic just comes out casually. Good Luck you seem like a sweety and will do fine.I need some girl advice...pronto :)?
You don't need to tell her you've never had a girlfriend... and you don't need to make it a big deal. If you want a date... take her to the movies... but her ticket... and get some candy to share... you wont be stuck trying to make conversation the whole time because you'll be watching the movie. And some girls like shy guys, but try to come out of your shell just a little bit.
you should tell her she will probably take that as a good thing and will be like thanks so go for it and plz tell me how it goes thanks
i wouldn't tell her that your inexperienced. she might think your weird or something. i wouldn't really talk to her about the dating thing yet. arrange somewhere cool to meet. like a movie or someplace like that. so you two can meet each other and see if you really like her. go on dates for a little while to make sure shes into you and you get to know her well. then ask her if she wants to start dating you.
Hi! If i were in your position i wouldnt tell her just yet....she may feel like she has a ton of pressure on her because of that..maybe wait a little bit until you are better friends than tell her! Good luck!!
well obviously she likes you. so don't blow it. just keep on being yourself b/c she likes you how you are. if i were you i wouldn't go telling her right off the bat that you haven't ever pursued girl before, she might think that you are desperate. tell her after a while. just be you and everything will fall into place.
Dating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
Well i've been dating this girl for about 3-4 weeks. The first week was mostly phone calls/ text / internet chatting 24/7 like literally. Then the 2nd week we met up, hooked up and act like gf/bf. But things are slowing down. (none the less good tho...) She tells me things are moving to fast... i agree but i think we have a special thing going and we should just ride the wave.
These past weeks, i've noticed we talk/ chat a lot less like its more level now? But its because she makes it that way.. and i really don't understand. We profess how much we like each other but she always comes voices her insecurities. (she was scared from a prior relationship) What am i suppose to do? I really like her, and dont want to lose her. So i try not to pry and initiate convo's. I've tried but i dont want to end up causing irreversible travesties.
Im ready and willing but she tells me things like... ';some days i feel like committing and some days i dont'; What am i suppose to do? Im also worried that since i need alot of attention and affection i might lose her during this hiatus. The 24/7 chatting was supplementing that need but since thats gone what else do i have left to stay?Dating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
i don麓t even care what you have to say about this girl... get away from unsure girls, been there done that, never going back.
insecurity leads to A LOT of problemsDating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
I think that best thing you can do is try to be her friend, then you can move forward from there. If shes worth your time then you shouldn't mind spending some time building up trust
IT's true what people said above me- unsure girls are bad bad news.
give her time
too much effort mate, you gotta decide if she's worth it
First give her some space and let her think real hard about this.
Like the other answer has said ';Unsure women leads to lots of confusing and heartache';.
It's true, i've been through the same **** too and all it did was hurt me. So best advice i can give you is let her be for a bit, give her a few weeks. Chill with her like you normally would. If she still feels strange about it, just tell her how you feel, make it seem like you mean the world to her and that you would do most anything for her and be by her side when she needs it most. Say it from the heart like you really mean it.
If she still feels unsure about you and acts in a strange way that makes you feel extremely uncomfortable....best thing you can do is just move on, it would be her lose if she lost the man that would give the world to her, not yours.
These past weeks, i've noticed we talk/ chat a lot less like its more level now? But its because she makes it that way.. and i really don't understand. We profess how much we like each other but she always comes voices her insecurities. (she was scared from a prior relationship) What am i suppose to do? I really like her, and dont want to lose her. So i try not to pry and initiate convo's. I've tried but i dont want to end up causing irreversible travesties.
Im ready and willing but she tells me things like... ';some days i feel like committing and some days i dont'; What am i suppose to do? Im also worried that since i need alot of attention and affection i might lose her during this hiatus. The 24/7 chatting was supplementing that need but since thats gone what else do i have left to stay?Dating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
i don麓t even care what you have to say about this girl... get away from unsure girls, been there done that, never going back.
insecurity leads to A LOT of problemsDating a ';unsure'; girl.... Advice please?
I think that best thing you can do is try to be her friend, then you can move forward from there. If shes worth your time then you shouldn't mind spending some time building up trust
IT's true what people said above me- unsure girls are bad bad news.
give her time
too much effort mate, you gotta decide if she's worth it
First give her some space and let her think real hard about this.
Like the other answer has said ';Unsure women leads to lots of confusing and heartache';.
It's true, i've been through the same **** too and all it did was hurt me. So best advice i can give you is let her be for a bit, give her a few weeks. Chill with her like you normally would. If she still feels strange about it, just tell her how you feel, make it seem like you mean the world to her and that you would do most anything for her and be by her side when she needs it most. Say it from the heart like you really mean it.
If she still feels unsure about you and acts in a strange way that makes you feel extremely uncomfortable....best thing you can do is just move on, it would be her lose if she lost the man that would give the world to her, not yours.
Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
okay i told this girl i really like ';i like you'; - she replied to me i also like like you.......... :)
Now here is where im confused? - everyone says were always flirting - laughing touching each other etc ....... always together basically ........! (thats what others think and say to me)
She said to me although I like you ';I dont think anything should happen';? ........... :|
Bear in mind im pakistani shes indian ---------%26gt; Different religion/culture I dont know if that affects anything? - were both 17 studying at college.
But if she liked me why would she say ';i dont think anything should happen though';
Problem is i want to be with her but when she said that I was like ';whaat'; ?
Can someone please explain to me in detail - if she likes me why would she say that?
Thanks folks i really appreciate your answers
And please be serious!Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
She likes you as a friend. Don't make her feel suffocated, lay off a bit.Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
culture should never make a difference, you probably just have a bad habit or something that puts her off, but tbh don't bother asking her if you do because she won't notice it or won't be able to explain it and it will just make things awkward, try to erase your personality a bit, it will be boring at first but once you make your new personality it will make all the difference, obviously this sounds very silly and you don't have to do it but i did it and it worked so i dunno, do what you think is best.
or you could just ask her why she doesn't want to go out with you
hmmmm....i would only say that to a guy if i meant physical love...maybe she likes you and is a bit unsure about the relationship as it is early stages...i think you ask her clearly to go out with you, and ask/tell her whatever is on your mind. i think she definatley likes you though, but maybe she is a bit nervous about the new relationship that is going to grow between you??? best thing to do id to tell/ask her...good luck! =) hope i helped
i think that she likes you as a friend but thats all you are to her,just enjoy being her friend its tough but if you was to push it further you may end up loosing her as a friend too,
she probably really like you, but thinks it might be too hard to have a relationship because of all of the religious/cultural differences you mentioned.
maybe she's talkign about doing the nasty.. you know what i mean ;) and she might just want to be a virgin or something... or i could be completely wrong... ask her about it.... :0)
Now here is where im confused? - everyone says were always flirting - laughing touching each other etc ....... always together basically ........! (thats what others think and say to me)
She said to me although I like you ';I dont think anything should happen';? ........... :|
Bear in mind im pakistani shes indian ---------%26gt; Different religion/culture I dont know if that affects anything? - were both 17 studying at college.
But if she liked me why would she say ';i dont think anything should happen though';
Problem is i want to be with her but when she said that I was like ';whaat'; ?
Can someone please explain to me in detail - if she likes me why would she say that?
Thanks folks i really appreciate your answers
And please be serious!Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
She likes you as a friend. Don't make her feel suffocated, lay off a bit.Help girl advice? ----------- I SAID TO HER ';I LIKE YOU';?
culture should never make a difference, you probably just have a bad habit or something that puts her off, but tbh don't bother asking her if you do because she won't notice it or won't be able to explain it and it will just make things awkward, try to erase your personality a bit, it will be boring at first but once you make your new personality it will make all the difference, obviously this sounds very silly and you don't have to do it but i did it and it worked so i dunno, do what you think is best.
or you could just ask her why she doesn't want to go out with you
hmmmm....i would only say that to a guy if i meant physical love...maybe she likes you and is a bit unsure about the relationship as it is early stages...i think you ask her clearly to go out with you, and ask/tell her whatever is on your mind. i think she definatley likes you though, but maybe she is a bit nervous about the new relationship that is going to grow between you??? best thing to do id to tell/ask her...good luck! =) hope i helped
i think that she likes you as a friend but thats all you are to her,just enjoy being her friend its tough but if you was to push it further you may end up loosing her as a friend too,
she probably really like you, but thinks it might be too hard to have a relationship because of all of the religious/cultural differences you mentioned.
maybe she's talkign about doing the nasty.. you know what i mean ;) and she might just want to be a virgin or something... or i could be completely wrong... ask her about it.... :0)
There is this girl and i need girl advice?
ok here we go. there is this girl at school i like her and she likes me. we have been talking for about two months and she tells me all the time that she likes me, but when i asked her out she said i will go out with you in the future but right now i just want to get to know you. is that girl talk for back off i dont really want you around or is she serious? we are both 17There is this girl and i need girl advice?
she probably is just nervous about taking the next step and doesnt want to loose a friend if it doesnt work out... this is normal
do something really romantic... like buy her flowers and randomly give them to her or write a cute poem and read it to her
this will make her fall for you
good luck :)There is this girl and i need girl advice?
In my opinion If a girl really likes you, she would jump at the chance to be with you but thats just me. Ask her about her recent relationship it might have something to do with that, because I had a friend who went through a really bad break up in which she felt that she had rushed into a relationship and they guy she was with ended up being REALLY clingy. So when she found another guy she was afraid to go out with him because she didnt want to rush into it like she did with her first boyfriend. I say just be patient for a while and if she still doesnt want to go out with you then let her know that you'er not going to wait for her forever.
She wants to get to know you as a person before she lets herself fall in love you. If you want to date her, ask her to let you know when she is ready for a boyfriend. In the meantime, just continue to talk and get a group together to go bowling or skating or to grab a bite and include her in the group. That way you can go out with her without the pressure of a date and while she can still get to know you.
basically she should just go out with you if she likes you. SHE CAN'T like you if she doesn't know you that well, so what more she wants to know?
i think it's best for her to go out with you so she can learn more since you guys are in a relationship and can talk things through and other type of feelings. otherwise, it's just going to be a friend to friend conversation, nothing more she's going to find out.
i just think she's confused.
Honestly? You can't really ask us because we dont know her.. if she seems really nice and honest, then she's probably just serious and wants to get to know you better. If you think thats it, then make a better effort to get to know her! If she seems like she's the type of person to lead you on, then find someone else.? At 17 there's going to be plenty of girls out there. I'm sure you have plenty of options! If you think she's serious, but you dont want to wait, then find someone else but stay friends with the girl who rejected you because maybe in the future, you guys will go out.
Good Luck!
hey im 17 to! well im not the commitment type of guy so my best advice to you is to keep talking to her if you like her as much as you say you do, but just keep in mind you guys are gettin to know each other try not to fall for her.
if you do or already fell for her then ask her out again cuz it has been 2 months she should know you by now
Girls dont have their heads on strait until they hit about 25. Same goes for you, teenage boy. You have the rest of your life to be tied down to one woman buddy, just have some fun and don't get all caught up in being ';exclusive'; or whatever. You should focus on studying so you can get a good job, then the girls will come naturally..because chicks dig guys who can take them to dinner, buy a house, etc. Focusing on getting a girlfriend at your age is the perfect recipe to end up a total loser.They should print THAT in a textbook.
heyy, im a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend is 20 and we have been together for a little over a year now and he did the same thing to me except he kept me going for 3 months so if you get off at 2 youre lucky ha ha. any way after we started dating i asked him why he waited so long to make a move and he told me that in his past relationships he just rished right into them and they didnt end well and he wanted to make sure we would last..i thought it was sweet, so maybe try asking if she has had any relationships in the past that left her uneasy but if it goes a long time and you guys still havent started dating and she says i dont wanna lose you as a friend, thats your sign that its not gunna happen. goodluck ;)
Don't wait around for her....
I'm almost positive she's not waiting for you. A line like that could only mean she has other interests or she's not interested enough in you.
You say that you both like each other but really think about this - who likes who more ? Who said I like you first ?
Also do you give her things ? (She could be using you)
Does she not want to be seen publicly with you ?
nah,, she wants you.
i'd say.....
she's been hurt before and doesnt want to rush into anything! Staying friends for a while means that she and you can really get to know each other before yous get all serious! If you really like her, and if you can stay in a relationship happily without sex for a while then you should give her all the time she needs, and just let her know exactly how your feeling for her!
In my opinion, this kind of behavior seems attention-seeking.
I've had experience with Girls who've hunted for attention in a similar way, and to be honest after a while it seems like they're so out of reach even though you had feelings for one-another.
I'd just tell her straight and if she still gives the same explanation then I'd just move on. Hope this helps!
It seems like she's not exactly ready for a relationship. Maybe she's been screwed over by some guys, and really wants to get to know you before committing to you. If you really like her, then stick with it. But don't let it last too long, because then it will just be like she's leading you on.
Maybe a date at the moment is moving a little too fast for her. When she says she wants to get to know you that is exactly what she means. So instead of a ';date'; plan a day to ';hang out'; in a casual setting. It could even be a more comfortable situation if you two go with a group hang out.
I think she is serious..she may have some mixed feelings and wants to ensure she really likes you seriously before she takes it to the next level with you...she may also just want to focus on other things at this point in her life..like school or family..and just doesn't have time for a relationship right now
I think that she wants to get to know you better before you date and this a good thing in my opinion :) it's never really good to rush anything. I think it kind of shows that she is serious about being with you which is great. So have fun and get to know eachother more. Good luck
She most definitley have her guard up and maybe from her past relationships she Dont wanna get hurt. So she's still out there Lookin and Pickin around yaknow? She wanna See what else is better Out there. She likes you but Perhaps has another friend on the side she Still wanna Get to know more.
She is definitely not telling you to back off. I think she just doesn't want to rush into anything. Its pretty clear she's not the type you are going to bang on the first date. If you like her enough, you will be patient and help her to get to know you better like she says.
She's probably scared and intimidated about getting into a relationship as are all young adults are.
Or perhaps she isn't allowed to go out until shes 18 or something. That was always a problem with relationships when I was in high school a year ago.
id say shes serious. i like to get to know my guys as well. for real. so i would take it seriously if i were you. why else would she say she likes you? just for he health? no shes being honest. (:
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well it could be either one. but in my opinion i think she just doesnt know what she wants. you need to be straight up. ';whats the deal? why are you waiting so long.';
uhhh, she may be serious, and she may be not wanting you, but i don't think she would tell you that she likes you all the time and then not want you lol.
Well if she is actually trying to get to know you and is spending time with you maybe she is interested in getting to know you first. If she has been ignoring you completly maybe you should back off
I mean like bro,
Give her a chance to get to know you more. You cant rush into being a relationship cause something wrong might happen you know, So don't rush it man, that time will come.
Just get to know her better, ask her questions about her life and what she likes and tell her stuff about you. Let her get to know you better.
to me it sounds she's either
A)not ready for a relationship right now(just give her some time)
B)doesn't want to rush into it
C)just wants to know as much about you as possible
she's probably telling you the truth she just wants to get to know you more so hang out and become best friends and then later on down the road ask her out again
Sorry it depends on the person %26amp; I don't know her. But I can't see where she would try to keep you around at all if she didn't like you.
it sounds like she has other choices and right now she's trying to figure out who to choose. You should definitely move on.
Just work on getting to know her like you said, and maybe let her make the next move. When she's ready to go out with you, she'll let you know one way or another.
~G~
i think shes probably serious. i know plenty of girls that need to truly know someone before they make it official.
At 17 dont worry about girlfriends and all that crap. I tell you, women can kill. Poontang's expensive. That's why when it comes to chicks, I just screw them and leave them. I'd say ';get out of my bedroom, poontang, before you suck my life dry!';
she probably is just nervous about taking the next step and doesnt want to loose a friend if it doesnt work out... this is normal
do something really romantic... like buy her flowers and randomly give them to her or write a cute poem and read it to her
this will make her fall for you
good luck :)There is this girl and i need girl advice?
In my opinion If a girl really likes you, she would jump at the chance to be with you but thats just me. Ask her about her recent relationship it might have something to do with that, because I had a friend who went through a really bad break up in which she felt that she had rushed into a relationship and they guy she was with ended up being REALLY clingy. So when she found another guy she was afraid to go out with him because she didnt want to rush into it like she did with her first boyfriend. I say just be patient for a while and if she still doesnt want to go out with you then let her know that you'er not going to wait for her forever.
She wants to get to know you as a person before she lets herself fall in love you. If you want to date her, ask her to let you know when she is ready for a boyfriend. In the meantime, just continue to talk and get a group together to go bowling or skating or to grab a bite and include her in the group. That way you can go out with her without the pressure of a date and while she can still get to know you.
basically she should just go out with you if she likes you. SHE CAN'T like you if she doesn't know you that well, so what more she wants to know?
i think it's best for her to go out with you so she can learn more since you guys are in a relationship and can talk things through and other type of feelings. otherwise, it's just going to be a friend to friend conversation, nothing more she's going to find out.
i just think she's confused.
Honestly? You can't really ask us because we dont know her.. if she seems really nice and honest, then she's probably just serious and wants to get to know you better. If you think thats it, then make a better effort to get to know her! If she seems like she's the type of person to lead you on, then find someone else.? At 17 there's going to be plenty of girls out there. I'm sure you have plenty of options! If you think she's serious, but you dont want to wait, then find someone else but stay friends with the girl who rejected you because maybe in the future, you guys will go out.
Good Luck!
hey im 17 to! well im not the commitment type of guy so my best advice to you is to keep talking to her if you like her as much as you say you do, but just keep in mind you guys are gettin to know each other try not to fall for her.
if you do or already fell for her then ask her out again cuz it has been 2 months she should know you by now
Girls dont have their heads on strait until they hit about 25. Same goes for you, teenage boy. You have the rest of your life to be tied down to one woman buddy, just have some fun and don't get all caught up in being ';exclusive'; or whatever. You should focus on studying so you can get a good job, then the girls will come naturally..because chicks dig guys who can take them to dinner, buy a house, etc. Focusing on getting a girlfriend at your age is the perfect recipe to end up a total loser.They should print THAT in a textbook.
heyy, im a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend is 20 and we have been together for a little over a year now and he did the same thing to me except he kept me going for 3 months so if you get off at 2 youre lucky ha ha. any way after we started dating i asked him why he waited so long to make a move and he told me that in his past relationships he just rished right into them and they didnt end well and he wanted to make sure we would last..i thought it was sweet, so maybe try asking if she has had any relationships in the past that left her uneasy but if it goes a long time and you guys still havent started dating and she says i dont wanna lose you as a friend, thats your sign that its not gunna happen. goodluck ;)
Don't wait around for her....
I'm almost positive she's not waiting for you. A line like that could only mean she has other interests or she's not interested enough in you.
You say that you both like each other but really think about this - who likes who more ? Who said I like you first ?
Also do you give her things ? (She could be using you)
Does she not want to be seen publicly with you ?
nah,, she wants you.
i'd say.....
she's been hurt before and doesnt want to rush into anything! Staying friends for a while means that she and you can really get to know each other before yous get all serious! If you really like her, and if you can stay in a relationship happily without sex for a while then you should give her all the time she needs, and just let her know exactly how your feeling for her!
In my opinion, this kind of behavior seems attention-seeking.
I've had experience with Girls who've hunted for attention in a similar way, and to be honest after a while it seems like they're so out of reach even though you had feelings for one-another.
I'd just tell her straight and if she still gives the same explanation then I'd just move on. Hope this helps!
It seems like she's not exactly ready for a relationship. Maybe she's been screwed over by some guys, and really wants to get to know you before committing to you. If you really like her, then stick with it. But don't let it last too long, because then it will just be like she's leading you on.
Maybe a date at the moment is moving a little too fast for her. When she says she wants to get to know you that is exactly what she means. So instead of a ';date'; plan a day to ';hang out'; in a casual setting. It could even be a more comfortable situation if you two go with a group hang out.
I think she is serious..she may have some mixed feelings and wants to ensure she really likes you seriously before she takes it to the next level with you...she may also just want to focus on other things at this point in her life..like school or family..and just doesn't have time for a relationship right now
I think that she wants to get to know you better before you date and this a good thing in my opinion :) it's never really good to rush anything. I think it kind of shows that she is serious about being with you which is great. So have fun and get to know eachother more. Good luck
She most definitley have her guard up and maybe from her past relationships she Dont wanna get hurt. So she's still out there Lookin and Pickin around yaknow? She wanna See what else is better Out there. She likes you but Perhaps has another friend on the side she Still wanna Get to know more.
She is definitely not telling you to back off. I think she just doesn't want to rush into anything. Its pretty clear she's not the type you are going to bang on the first date. If you like her enough, you will be patient and help her to get to know you better like she says.
She's probably scared and intimidated about getting into a relationship as are all young adults are.
Or perhaps she isn't allowed to go out until shes 18 or something. That was always a problem with relationships when I was in high school a year ago.
id say shes serious. i like to get to know my guys as well. for real. so i would take it seriously if i were you. why else would she say she likes you? just for he health? no shes being honest. (:
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well it could be either one. but in my opinion i think she just doesnt know what she wants. you need to be straight up. ';whats the deal? why are you waiting so long.';
uhhh, she may be serious, and she may be not wanting you, but i don't think she would tell you that she likes you all the time and then not want you lol.
Well if she is actually trying to get to know you and is spending time with you maybe she is interested in getting to know you first. If she has been ignoring you completly maybe you should back off
I mean like bro,
Give her a chance to get to know you more. You cant rush into being a relationship cause something wrong might happen you know, So don't rush it man, that time will come.
Just get to know her better, ask her questions about her life and what she likes and tell her stuff about you. Let her get to know you better.
to me it sounds she's either
A)not ready for a relationship right now(just give her some time)
B)doesn't want to rush into it
C)just wants to know as much about you as possible
she's probably telling you the truth she just wants to get to know you more so hang out and become best friends and then later on down the road ask her out again
Sorry it depends on the person %26amp; I don't know her. But I can't see where she would try to keep you around at all if she didn't like you.
it sounds like she has other choices and right now she's trying to figure out who to choose. You should definitely move on.
Just work on getting to know her like you said, and maybe let her make the next move. When she's ready to go out with you, she'll let you know one way or another.
~G~
i think shes probably serious. i know plenty of girls that need to truly know someone before they make it official.
At 17 dont worry about girlfriends and all that crap. I tell you, women can kill. Poontang's expensive. That's why when it comes to chicks, I just screw them and leave them. I'd say ';get out of my bedroom, poontang, before you suck my life dry!';
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