Basically I know this girl right and i really like here but shes seeing some other guy (been on like 2-3 dates with him and they work in the same office)...but i always get on well with her, always busting her balls and having a good laugh with her.
then last saturday we were at this dinner ball thing and she was there on her own...i was dancin with her and stuff all night and i think if it was any other environment(on our own or a club) i would have deffo pulled(kissed) her..and she kept hmmering on all night about ';oh you'll make that guy jealous'; and ';i better warn him about you'; in that kind of flirtacious kind of way
how can i play this so that i get the girl and the guy doesnt??
should i just tell her how i feel (which would kind of ruin the sexual tension i think) or just completely confuse her by ingoring her and not talking to her for like 2 weeks or something??
I really need your help people!!! so best answer gets best points :)I need Girl Advice (for all the players out there)!!?
is she committed to the other guy?
if so just play it cool and be a friend,
if she's not then hell yeah pull her close to you, you'll know if she wants you if she meets you half way.
I need Girl Advice (for all the players out there)!!?
i meant answer from Arts girl 08 is shite not number 6
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Look...If you really like her and want her, then straight away talk to her....and it can be late...If your love is true, i ensure you 100% that she will reciprocate...Trust me!!! Don't ignore her then she may act the other way i.e. negatively...just go and approach her....ALL THE BEST BUDDY!!!
Cheers!!-Khyathi_Cute
invite her to a club or something. ignoring her will defeat your purpose. spilling your guts may not be that effective either. try recreate the situation only with a different more private environment.
like yeah be a playa!!!!
hang with her heaps, have sex!!
Simple.. Back off a bit. If you really do like her then you wont mess up her head so much. You'll just be around for her. No girl will appreciate being played, and she'll find it hard to trust you, or her own feelings.. (She would ask if she really liked you, or if she had just been manipulated. Then wouldnt be able to trust her own feelings. The end consequence of that is that i would really screw her up and probably scar her for life). Also would you ever question if she was with you for liking you, or if she was with you because things were wrong witht hte other guy?
Sooo if you actually do like her, and can't back off maybe just say that you know she's been on a few dates and that you'll find it hard to watch her be someone elses girlfriend, so you need a bit of space. Then you'll get some space. If the friendship is just based on tension then its not a strong enough friendship.
If she had dated you a few times, and it was the other way round, would you want to have her played and taken away from you?
Besides, she is seeing a work colleague. It's going to be messy for her to break up with him at any point- let alone if she ditches him for someone else. Do you want to put her through that?
If you really like her for being her (which is what i am assuming).. then your feelings wont go away, and you will do the right thing by her.
It doesn sound like she was flirting a bit, but girls get flattered by attention, and are not always aware of when they are giving off signals. People become more self assured when they are in a relationship, and unfortunately this confidence makes them seem a lot more attractive (without them knowing it!)
Maybe that isn't what you wanted to hear, but it is a girls point view and I hope it helps you.
Well first off, screw games. A little pursuit is always fun, but games only end up screwing things up in the end. Toss those ideas right out the window. Ignoring her will probably only end up backfiring on you b/c the other guy will swoop her up in a heartbeat. In fact, he's already dating her, so ignoring her will only show her that you aren't interested.
Secondly, I think that you should just be honest with this girl. It appears that she may not have made up her mind yet %26amp; is waiting for a REAL sign from you, not games.
Thirdly, I have to point out some warning signs. If you are more worried about losing the game, then you aren't interested in her. (I.E., you seemed to talk more about the other guy %26amp; you seemed to want the sexual tension more than you wanted the girl.) You're interested in one-upping the other guy. If that's the case, then you better be up front with this girl. If you just want sex, then let her know. There's nothing wrong about you getting some, there's only something wrong if you have to trick her in order to get it.
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