I need some girl advice!?

i am thirteen and i havent started my period yet, but all my friends have and they have all had sex and they say how great it is when you're with the right person, but whenever i get offered( don't ask me why i'm not exactly pretty) i always chicken out..... i dont know wether im scared or i just want to do it with someone who i actually like and know he wont stab me in the back straight away :( xxI need some girl advice!?
Hi Ellie,





Ok, lets start with your concerns over your period. Girls start at different ages, and it's perfectly normal for you to have not started your period yet. Don't worry.





If nothing happens within a year or so, I would then think about seeing your doctor.





Secondly, about the other girls who are having sex at 13. Now, some of them may be and I would guess that most of them are not. You say that you have chickened out from having sex, which means that you don't want to. That's fine.





It's perfectly OK to be different from your friends in some ways, the world would be dull if we were all the same. A lot of people like to wait until they are in a relationship before they have sex for the first time so that they trust the person that they are with. It's OK to wait, it's OK to do what you want, just make sure that you do what YOU want and not what you think you should do. You only get one first time.





Remember sex is something that your body is designed to do as an adult, and before you get your period, ie you are not sexually mature and it is not a good idea.





Having sex for the first time is such an important event in your life, you will always remember it and you will always remember who it was with. You may want to look back on your first time with a smile rather than with regret.





I would like to respond to one of the other answers. Someone said that if you have sex before your first period you will never be able to have kids. That is just not true.





LI need some girl advice!?
your 13! im sorry but thats not right atall to be even thinking about it.


so what if your friends have (but personally i doubt they even have, people will say absolute anything to become popular or make themselves feel better) you shouldnt feel the need to have sex just because they say its good and they have. your 13 for crying out loud!


be a normal 13 year old girl, hang around with your friends, have a laugh. but sex thats just not necessary at such a young age. i know nowadays people are losing there virginity's at a young age, and maybe you feel pressured into doing it,





and about your period, dont be bothered about that atall.


i know loads of girls that didnt start til they were 15-16.


and anyway, trust me. the later you start your period, the better. not exactly the most amazing thing in the world.





and im not being rude or anything. but at your age, you will probably never find 'the right person'. the only thing lads at your age want you for is to get in your knickers. so why give them that satisfaction? a girl who does nothing with a lad and keeps her dignity is much a better person than a girl who does everything just to fit in with friends. trust me.





be sensible. dont make a wrong mistake. you could really regret it.
at thirteen i don't think any girl is mature enough to cope with a sexual relationship. many young people claim they have had sex when they hav'n't as they think it makes them look 'big'. everyone starts puberty at different times, so don't worry about your periods. i work in a school, and i would say most thirteen year olds are virgins of both sexes. my advice... wait until YOU are ready for a relationship, never try and compete with 'friends' or indeed feel the odd one out, you are right in wanting to wait until the right person comes along
Take your time, dont rush in to having sex. It may sound old fashioned, but treat your body like a temple. It only takes one time to get a vanerial disease or get pregnant. And you not getting your period is ok, your body is just taking its time. There is nothing wrong with you.





Please listen to this, you are not cool, to have sex early. Be someone different and wait. You will respect your self more and so will the boys.





Take care
You sound very mature for 13. Don't let those people who are not mature make you wonder about yourself. DS is right, people lie! You just stick with what your decisions. You are smart, you will know when it is the right time and you are right for wanting a guy who will treat you nicely. Who wants to be totally humiliated? I am proud of you for thinking of more than just the present moment. You keep taking care of yourself, you are doing fine and will be happy with yourself when you are older, like in your 20s.
At 13 you shouldn't even be thinking about sex.let me ell you if your friends have had sex already they are very silly.wait until your much older . there is a saying i have always belived in, it goes somethin like this, be the one everyone wants not the one everyones had.


hope you do wait im 32 so im not that old but i fell in love at 15 had my forst child at 16 then another at 17 then my last one at 30,but i was one of the lucky ones im still with the dad of my children he was my first and i love him more today than i ever have,some of my friends though had children yong ended up in bad relationships and have really messed up lives.
Alright, well I am sure that it is really hard for you to hear all of that from your friends, but you need to be strong and say no every time. Just wait until you are much, much older. Imagine if your parents found out! Just wait until after you get married. I think that it would be really dumb to ruin your life based on one night. Imagine how happy you will be when are you are not the pregnant one between all of your friends!
For GODS sake, enjoy your childhood whilst you can. Why do you want to grow up so fast and get into the complicated and painful business of sex and love? Just stick to a snog for now...





You don't have to do what your friends do, be your own person, do what you feel comfortable with... you'll go further in life
DONT HAVE SEX!!!


listen to me!! seriousy!! im not ur mom, im a complete stranger and believe me when i tell you its NOT worth having sex when your 13...omigod, i cant believe kids that age do that...do you have any idea how much it increases your chances of getting cancer when youre older?! wait for someone who will make it actually MEAN something other than being like your friends, who you will probably not even be in touch with in a few years time...


as for your period, wait till youre 16, and then get worried. dont worry about it, all it is is a pain in the neck..your better off without it for now.
Look, yur friends can rub it in all they want about it ..it's not that great they're prolly jus tryin to make u lose your virginity so they can have somethin against you... stay who u are ignore wat they do cause premarital sex is against God although the majority of girls have already had sex, they lost their innocence and totally regret it... Good Luck!..
one;


don't have sex before you start your period, you won't be able to have kids.


two;


none of your friends have had sex, they're just saying that to look cool.


you'll start your period when you start it.


and don't have sex until it's with someone you love or you'll regret it.
If your scared to do it.then your obviously not ready to do it.im 22 and i lost my virginity when i was 14 because all the girls were doing it.i regret it and gutted about ever since. it cos i wasent ready and the boyfriend i had was pushing me to do it.you never forget your first time.oh how i wish i could.


so do it wen your ready.you will now when your ready cos your gut will tell you when its right.
underage sex is never a good idea hun


dont follow ur mates maybe u shud watch the story about a girl called kizzy who got prgnant at 13 she had a load of abuse thrown at her fo gettin pregnant so young the best thing to do is to wait til ur old enuf u mite regret it later if u have underage sex now
13 is way too young to be having sex...


you dont want to be the type of girl that has a baby when she's 16.


wait for the right boy to come along... there is no need to rush things... sex isn't that bigger deal, just make sure to wait for the right guy. its not all its cracked up to be.
you are thirteen....please do not have sex. It is a descision you will probably regret for the rest of your life unless you marry the boy you sleep with.


Wait some time. Having sex is not like holding hands or kissing...rethink the peer pressure fo ryour own good.
k girl let me tell u something ur periods stuff is natural and u cannot help it


but u feeling to have sex at age of thirteen is not so good plz think twice before u act and ur friends r they sick i think they might be lying to u so plz dont listen to them and take care
Dont worry!! lots of girls havent started yet anyway.





yeahh i have a friend who said they have had sex... yhh rightt!! If i was you i wouldnt worry about it. also i wouldnt say its a good thing have sex at thirteen.





:) xx
you're too young to have sex. and it's against the law. don't do it unless you're ready. ignore your friends. don't be pressured into anything. good luck.
wtf is your problem ?


you're thirteen ?


first off; not to be harsh but you don't even have your period... haha and you are thinking about having sex ?


god help you..
ur friends are lying sex at 13 is never great... ur too young anyway... but luckily ur smart.. wait for the right guy...when ur older who knows how to treat a woman right and then it will be great... right now it will just be messy and embarrassing
I bet they haven't had sex ;]





People will say pretty much anything to be popular...
your friends are probably not even having sex. dont feel pressured babes, save yourself. you'll know when it feels right (: x
You'll never regret saying ';no';





Don't let yourself be pressured in to that.
right what i say is wait for the right person...u don't wanna be those girls who has been round the block a few times....also its not chickening out......
13? What the he!! is wrong with you and your freinds, go away!
you 13 and your debating whether or not you should have sex????


gd help you...